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letmeno · Sep 24, 2005, 04:00 PM

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If you could go on a date and some how let her know with out telling her. That would help a ton. Woman get so jealous.

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I totally agree! This one little move, and you will see a side of her that you have never seen before. Women HATE this. She is going to totally turn a shade of green that will make crayola smile!

MommaLove · Sep 24, 2005, 11:04 PM

WILDCAT I have a question. Doesn't the love tactics say that people want someone they can talk to. I mean when you break up with someone and try to get back into their life, don't you need to show them that you can be a good listener and be there for them. Isn't that what people want.

Wildcat21 · Sep 25, 2005, 04:36 PM

Hey MommaLove,

Yes - it's important to be friends when developing a relationship. If you're not friends and don't necessarily get along, you won't last. I mean there are people out there who are in love (lust, smitten) but have nothing in common and really don't know a lot about each other. It's like a friendship love.

Then there is the dreaded 'friend zone' someone can put you in - they treat you like one of their friends. They will never have a romanic interest in you again if you allow this.

Swriter problem is way different. He broke with his gal. He is trying to get her back. She is trying to put him into the friend zone. He has a whole different ball game. He needed to change, stop being a wuss, cut contact etc. They've already had a romantic interest and she ended it - there are things he needs to do - as we have discusseed in great detail on this thread.

Swriter · Sep 25, 2005, 07:47 PM

Very accurate description wildcat. So far, so good. I got the drunken text message last night, and that was ignored.

Swriter · Sep 29, 2005, 04:06 PM

Well, I returned back to town late Monday night and am still sticking to the plan. 've gotten a few emails, a few text messages and I know she's stopped by my building mulitple times (coworkers have told me) but I wasn't around. The only time I responded at all was to an email that was a mix of personal stuff and some questions about work. Ianswered the work questions and left it at that. I do have a date tonight, too bad there was no obvious way for her to find out about it. I could have told her myself but there was no way it could have come up (in email or text) without it looking obvious so I just left it out. How am I doing so far Wildcat?

letmeno · Sep 29, 2005, 08:17 PM

If I were in here shoes, I would definitely be wondering what in the world is up, and second guessing myself by now. I don't know what wildcat would suggest right now, but if you gave in right now, I highly doubt that anything would change. She WILL become more persistent. Trust me on this one! Just stick to your guns and be very clear that you have no desire to be her "buddy" How did your date go?

Swriter · Sep 30, 2005, 04:28 AM

The date went fine. Nothing special, but it was OK. Turns out I took a date to a little social gathering and she (the old one) found out about the party and that I was there. I got an email from her about it asking how it went (first thing this morning). I don't think she knows that I brought a date, but she does know that I went to the party and didn't ask her to come along...

Wildcat21 · Sep 30, 2005, 10:37 AM

Sounds like it's going very well. Keep it up! Wow, all this communication from her?? That's great about the party - she's probably bummed you didn't ask her - this is a good thing she may feel she is missing out!

letmeno · Sep 30, 2005, 06:55 PM

Be ready, she is going to become more and more persistent.