[sphyncx]

I've learned more in the past 5-6 days then I have in 19 years of my life. Thanks for those website, especially www.sosuave.com everything there is so true and all it took was me to read it. Me and the girl actually just broke it off Tuesday (today), and she still wants to remain friends.

Funny thing is about that... I told her I'm going out with one of her friends tomorrow to hang with... and she's like "wait what?" lol

I've gained more confidence and want to go out and meet girls now all the time and you opened my eyes to all of that. And I as of right now... sure I might miss her a little bit... but I took a step back and looked at what I was doing. I WAS being in "need" of her. Sure I still might want her a little bit... but I sure don't NEED her. I just think it's funny that she got surprised and probably jelouse that I'm hanging with one of her good friends.

And who knows maybe me and her will go out later one when she figures out what she wants in a relationship and becomes more open. But we are keeping an open friendly relationship off it... lets see if that lasts. :D

[sphyncx]

Thanks turtle too :)

[Wildcat21]

Knowledge is power my friend. I wanted you to learn this stuff NOW! I wanted you to change - I know it's hard, but in the long run you will be much more happy with yourself. There are things you need to learn for the rest of your life - and use throughout your relationships.

Heartache is avoidable - BECAUSE you need to understand every situation - from tests, to break-up, to be independent and having your own life, to take things slow, communicating less - and talking MORE when you're with them, making them laugh and teasing them, listening, not being a 'nice guy'

I do strongly advise subscribing to DD's e-mail at www.doubleyourdating.com AND, if you can, buy his books.

You need to act as if you don't need her. And NOW don't call her for a long time - months. Date the other girl - and please use your new knowledge - you have to if you want to keep her.

I advise highly NOT becoming friends if you ever want a chance again. No contact - that's Wuss Boy behavior.

Confidence is what it's all about. Take care of yourself first, always.

[sphyncx]

Well I really don't plan on talking to her... she's the one that engages conversation with me. And I'm not dating her friend and really don't plan on it... just hanging out with them ;)

[lickemlolly]

Well good for you... you finally moved on.. man congrats... you see this may be hard to hear but it really is good advice