[vanheart]

I hope you are starting to realize the root of all this.

Once you get some help & get your addiction under control, then you can start seeing things clearly.

Including relationships.

[Kitkat22]

I hope you are starting to realize the root of all this.

Once you get some help & get your addiction under control, then you can start seeing things clearly.

Including relationships.

Van did you read about the black out he had? He and the ex both have DUIs. I'm sure you did! Just venting.. one of the kids in the grade class I use to substitute,was killed two years ago by a guy who was drunk. He's not the first around here either. I could name twenty from our county alone who have died in the last ten years by a drunk! Thanks for letting me vent.

[vanheart]

Yeah, I read it.
My sister is an alcoholic. Lots of heartache there. Believe me.

The point is only the individual can take the steps to fix it.

Im not condoning this behavior in the least.

[Kitkat22]

Dazed.. I do hope you come back here and discuss your problem. You do have a problem. The ex girfriend is irrelevant to what I'm asking you to do. I get very angry when I hear someone saying they are still drinking after getting a DUI. Do you have children? How would you feel if someone who was driving drunk killed one of your family members?

Whether you get back with this ex or not I don't care cause if you do it's like the blind leading the blind. Casual sex with someone you don't know is dangerous to you and for them. AIDS and other STDs haven't taken a holiday. Before you kill someone by drinking and driving or before you wind up killing yourself with alcohol you need to think about what's important.

God gave you life and a free will and so far you haven't used that free will to make good choices. Think about what you're doing and if you want to change get help!

[confused580]

Today I went to AA for the firs time. It was great! One day at a time...

I still feel bad for all the mean texts I sent to my ex while drunk on wednesdays, saying things like "your pathetic". Only reason I said this you guys is because she "texted" me to ask me can she have some money instead of calling... I guess my emtions got the best of me... She won't answer my calls nor texts... I did text her I loved her, and that was the only text that she replied saying: "that was so sweet of you :)" (with the smiley face included)... after that she didn't respond back to anymore texts...


I know I said I wouldn't text, I just felt bad for going off on her while drunk. We've both done this too each other, my mines is more recent. I was laid off from my job, and I have TOO much time on my hands. Most of my time was either with my job or my ex... Now that both are gone, its like I don't have anything to do most of the day.

Im thinking of going to 4-5 AA meetings a day and also ask them if they know places I can do volunteer work... If I do that, then I won't obsess about what my ex is doing, who she's doing it with, etc...

My best friend who is a girl, said that me texting like that was just feeding her ego, so STOP!

Thank you all for all of your support, and I will be going back to AA tomorrow and the rest of the week

[vanheart]

Great man.

Make sure to keep up the meetings.

Don't go back.

[confused580]

Great man.

Make sure to keep up the meetings.

Dont go back.

Thank you both... I'm not going back, I just felt bad for drunk texting her, and wanted to get my apology across, but seems she won't accept it... o well I guess. Maybe later in time she will

[Kitkat22]

I am glad you are getting help! That shows you are trying to get your life together. Good for you! You can do it! Don't depend on anyone else to make you happy. I have seen so many lives ruined by alcohol and so many innocent people die because of someone driving drunk.

I will remember you in my prayers and you need to pray for strength. If you are sincere God will hear your plea. You have taken a huge step in going to AA and I hope you continue to do so. You hang in there and you'll find you may like the man you become without the alcohol.

It won't be easy, but nothing is easy anymore. You stick to it dazed and I'll bet a year from now or six or even three months from now you'll see everything in a different light. Blessings.:)

[vanheart]

Don't worry about that stuff.
Just you.

[amicon]

Good decision-AA and volunteering-and I hope you'll find a new job soon.

Once you get your life back on track I think you will realise how toxic and destructive your relationship was.

Stick to no contact and concentrate on you.

[confused580]

Good decision-AA and volunteering-and I hope you'll find a new job soon.

Once you get your life back on track I think you will realise how toxic and destructive your relationship was.

Stick to no contact and concentrate on you.

Yeah I plan on it. Are you saying I should not be worried about if she accepts the apology

[amicon]

I am-let it go- you apologized.
End of.

[Kitkat22]

I am-let it go- you apologized.
End of.

You owe her nothing! Keep getting your life together!:)

[confused580]

My ex finally replied by text to me saying: "Aww that was sweet"... I didn't reply, don't plan on it. Nows the time for me to work on me

[Kitkat22]

my ex finally replied by text to me saying: "Aww that was sweet".....I didnt reply back, dont plan on it. Nows the time for me to work on me

Good for You! :)

[confused580]

I wish my job didn't lay me off. Im looking for other jobs. My idle mind is getting best of me. I go to AA, but that's at 8pm. This has been the LONGEST day... No g/f anymore, my friends are busy with school, and the only other hobby I have is to work out at the gym in which I did. Now WONDER I sit and wonder what she's up to. I have too much time on my hands...

I hear everyone say keep busy with that or this and that doesn't always work. I'll think of something. I go back to school but that isn't until September. That's what I get for making this person my world

[Kitkat22]

I wish my job didnt lay me off. Im looking for other jobs. My idle mind is getting best of me. I go to AA, but thats at 8pm. This has been the LONGEST day....No g/f anymore, my friends are busy with school, and the only other hobby I have is to work out at the gym in which I did. Now WONDER I sit and wonder what she's up to. I have too much time on my hands....

I hear everyone say keep busy with that or this and that doesnt always work. I'll think of something. I go back to school but that isnt until september. Thats what I get for making this person my world

Go visit your minister or priest. Volunteer at a homeless shelter. Help an elderly person by asking if they need help with anything. Read a good book. This is a good time to reflect on finding what caused you to start drinking so heavily in the first place. Do you have children?

[talaniman]

I use to attend many meetings a day to get sober, and volunteering is a great eye opening experience.

"Seek, and ye shall find". That's what my sponsor told me. He was right.

[vanheart]

Exactly,

No excuses.

[Kitkat22]

Exactly,

No excuses.

Take it one day at a time dazed. You will grow stronger.:)