[starbuck8]

there were never any texts to her from him,
his boss i a woman hater, verry errogant.
i read 2 texts then we got his # changed...no more since then......i dont know, he just seems really defencive when i bring her up, ive never seen her but he told me that she i one of the prettiest girls he has ever seen,....keep in mind he is only 22 im 24

I think you have rose colored glasses on. I know it's hard to see, when you are so close to the situation. If your fiancée had nothing to hide, he would be hiding nothing. Have you got personal knowledge that you have seen and heard with your own eyes that your bf's boss is a woman hater?. or is this what your boyfriend has told you? Be honest with yourself now. Did he tell you this is how his boss was first, and then you formed conclusions second? If his boss is this way, then your boyfriend should have taken this up directly with his boss, and confronted him with handing out his phone number. Ask yourself this. What would your bf's boss have to gain by medling in your relationship? It just doesn't make sense. If he was a woman hater... in your words... why would he give another female his number? One and one don't equal three. It just doesn't add up.

Your fiancée is very defensive. Men in relationships that get defensive are almost always covering for something, and trying to justify their actions. He told you that she is one of the prettiest girls he's ever seen? Hello! Big flashing red flag. Although I question the girls mothers' intentions for feeling the need to call you, I'm sure she's not phycho. She is likely upset that a man that is engaged with 3 children, is calling her 17 yr. old daughter. There is definitely something going on between your fiancée and this girl. No doubt about it. This is as clear as the nose on your face, but you are too close to see it for what it is. Actually, I digress, you already know. You just don't want to accept it yet. You know what your gut is telling you, but you are trying to explain it away. Go with your gut, it is seldom wrong!

There are just too many red flags here. He is NOT telling you the whole truth at the very least. I know it's hard, but this is a bad relationship.

[neverme]

I would say, believe your husband. Why believe a minor's parent about your husband?

However, I do see problems in which your husband is threatening to leave you for a girl. That's just immature and stupid, to be frank.

I know a lot of people are saying to "leave him," but I know it's not as simple as that...you guys are married, you guys have children...a divorce isn't as neat and easy as a breakup. Try to sit down and talk to him about this, and do try to work it out. Leaving should be one of the last resorts, at least for the sake of the children.

They are not married, they are engaged.

[ISneezeFunny]

Yes. I know. I mis-read earlier.

[neverme]

Sorry Sneezy missed a page of posts :D

[liz28]

Another thing for you to think about. Why would his boss give this underage girl his number? Isn't that must hate in the world.

Your fiancé is blaming other people instead of owning up to his own actions.

My mother always told me "if it doesn't make sense than it's a lie". His story has so many holes that even a blind man can see the truth. And the truth isn't in your fiancé.

[Romefalls19]

Leave him, if he is threatening to go be with another GIRL, not woman, then why would you want to be put through that? You can't say you're staying for the kids because kids pick up on their parents being miserable and unhappy. Trust me I know first hand, if my fiancé and I are arguing, we do it when the girls are not around or are in bed because they pick up on it.

You need to leave him for your own well being, this relationship is broken and there is no fixing it. Once his crosses the line of threatening to be with someone else it should be over.