[confused580]

I use to attend many meetings a day to get sober, and volunteering is a great eye opening experience.

"Seek, and ye shall find". Thats what my sponsor told me. He was right.

Thank you talaniman, I am going to do that night that I have the AA directory... tonight was my 2nd night...

I know this may sound stupid, but nights are the hardest past 10 because I visualize someone having sex with her durning the night, and I toss and turn. Maybe its still feelings, but I WISH they would Leave! Grrrrr

[Kitkat22]

thank u talaniman, I am going to do that night that I have the AA directory....tonight was my 2nd night...

I know this may sound stupid, but nights are the hardest past 10 because I visualize someone having sex with her durning the night, and i toss and turn. maybe its still feelings, but i WISH they would Leave! grrrrr

Think of other things! Like being on the beach or some pleasant memories from childhood. Good luck dazedd!:)

[confused580]

Think of other things! Like being on the beach or some pleasant memories from childhood. Good luck dazedd!:)

Easier said then done lol, but thank you for that. I will try that

[Kitkat22]

Easier said then done lol, but thank you for that. I will try that

Also talk to God. He's on call 24/7. I'm very proud of you Dazed for starting AA. I'll be praying for you. I think you are going to like the person you find when you get sober. Blessings Dazed:):)

[vanheart]

Yup, its easy to say "easier said then done"

Those thoughts are just conjured up fantasies.

And believe me. Ive perpetuated enough of those.

Just put your mind in the things you know to be real. Like your next step.

Fantasize all you want though, man. Just about the good things to come.

Be patient & keep up the meetings.

[confused580]

Day 3 of Sobriety... WOW, last night talk about some WEIRD FREAKED OUT DREAMS & NIGHT- SWEATS!

I couldn't sleep, was tossing and turning, and kept waking up to wet clothes, my entire body was sweating... im hoping this was due to withdrawal, and not a more serious problem... My friend who was diagnosed with HIV had nights sweats.


I know my ex gets out of class at 9, and I Know I need to stop looking at my phone to see if she will call. I'm just so used to it..

Im going to 3 meetings a day, I purposley made one of those meetings at night so I won't drink during the day. I guess to volunteer for AA u have to be sober for 1 year, which should be obvious..

We'll see how this goes

[confused580]

I was also told to take a sleep-aid at night, that would get me over constantly thinking about the Ex at this time

[talaniman]

Take nothing with out seeing a doctor. People in recovery often substitute one addiction for another to get them through. And be straight forward, and honest to the doctor, that your in recovery. None of that over the counter self medication.

[Kitkat22]

Take nothing with out seeing a doctor. People in recovery often substitute one addiction for another to get them thru. And be straight forward, and honest to the doctor, that your in recovery. None of that over the counter self medication.

You can do it dazed... Listen to talaniman. Hope you do this.:)

[vanheart]

One day at a time.

Breaking old habits. Takes time.

Replacing them with good things. No matter what those are.
Ones that don't medicate but uplift.

Remember those days?

Keep those thoughts about how great your new life will be. And how strong you will become for sticking it out.

[Kitkat22]

One day at a time.

Breaking old habits. Takes time.

Replacing them with good things. No matter what those are.
Ones that dont medicate but uplift.

Remember those days?

Keep those thoughts about how great your new life will be. And how strong you will become for sticking it out.

Good advice. Be strong Dazed. Better days are coming. You will love what being sober feels like. My nephew has been sober for two years now. He is going back to school and has started playing his guitar again and writing music. You can do the same:)

[confused580]

Didn't make it to AA today, didn't wake up until around 3pm, asi was coughing all night and with night sweats. I had wind symphony rehearsal a few hours after I woke up, and am just now getting home... thank goodness I didn't have the urge to stop by the store.

[vanheart]

Go later. Just don't drink.

[confused580]

I'm still upset about the verbal abusive text messages I sent my ex while waisted last Wednesday on st. pattys day. I apologized for it, but she just didn't really accept it. But that's all I can do for now

[vanheart]

Don't worry about that stuff.

That's in the past. Doesn't serve you one bit.

There's thoughts that feel good & then there's the other ones.

Don't stress about her.

[vanheart]

580,

There's a couple things that you got to do.

Set some goals with sobriety. And the reasons.
Get a calendar and set that end point. Mark the milestones.
That will help you in the process. To feel good about reaching them, and striving to. After a while, you won't even need the calendar, you will have gotten there. That will be a part of history.

Do some digging within yourself.
Everything from childhood to now. Relationships. How you went about things so far. With everything.
Who are you now? Where to you want to be?

What change will feel like.

[Kitkat22]

580,

Theres a couple things that you gotta do.

Set some goals with sobriety. And the reasons why.
Get a calendar and set that end point. Mark the milestones.
That will help you in the process. To feel good about reaching them, and striving to. After a while, you wont even need the calendar, you will have gotten there. That will be a part of history.

Do some digging within yourself.
Everything from childhood to now. Relationships. How you went about things so far. With everything.
Who are you now? Where to you want to be?

What change will feel like.

Dazed.. she's not worried about you . Stop thinking up excuses to call her. You may disagree with this but you have started on the right path.Don't get derailed... :)

[confused580]

Dazed.. she's not worried about you . Stop thinking up excuses to call her. You may disagree with this but you have started on the right path.Don't get derailed...:)

Kitkat thank you for reading my mind lol. And yes, I will stay on the right path. There's this girl who's trying to talk to me now, but I mentioned to her that I need to work out my alcohol issues first... She still wants to take me to dinner tomorrow, etc... She's coming to my wind symphony concert on Saturday, although I didn't want her to, so I hope she understands and realizes that this has to start VERY slow and get to be just regular good friends first while I work on myself. I will also stress to her not to wait on me, as I don't want someone to "hold on" while I get it together


Back to Kitkatt, of course my ex isn't worried, she's in class all day everyday and when not in class working, so she has No time to worry about me... I wish I was in the boat with a demanding schedule like that... that is what's called "keeping busy"... In September though, that will be me

[vanheart]

Just be honest. With everything.

Did I mention about those ridiculous thoughts?

"she has No time to worry about me....I wish i was in the boat with a demanding schedule like that....that is whats called "keeping busy"

How are you keeping busy? By wondering if she is?

[Kitkat22]

Kitkat thank u for reading my mind lol. and yes, I will stay on the right path. There's this girl who's trying to talk to me now, but i mentioned to her that i need to work out my alcohol issues first...She still wants to take me to dinner tommorrow, etc...She's coming to my wind symphony concert on saturday, although I didnt want her to, so i hope she understands and realizes that this has to start VERY slow and get to be just regular good friends first while i work on myself. I will also stress to her not to wait on me, as i dont want someone to "hold on" while i get it together


Back to Kitkatt, of course my ex isnt worried, shes in class all day everyday and when not in class working, so she has No time to worry about me....I wish i was in the boat with a demanding schedule like that....that is whats called "keeping busy"....In september tho, that will be me

I just am so proud of you! I KNOW you can do this! Here is a big HUG for you and I mean that as friend. I'm old enough to be your mom, so I'll just talk to you like a mom.:)