[Tiny.tot]

My boyfriend and I met over the internet when I was 17. I am now 19 & he's 21. We've been together for a year and a half. I live in Toronto & he lives in Brampton. We try to see each other as much as possible but that isn't an easy thing to do seeing that neither of us has a car and my mom doesn't really allow him to come over that much and only doesn't allow him to stay for long. When we call each other over the phone there isn't much to say, so its pretty much mostly quiet. He hangs around his friends a lot, and they're mostly girls he's grown up with but with my past of my ex boyfriend cheating on me & our distance I don't really trust him. I don't really like the fact that there are girls going to his house to see him and stuff. I just graduated from high school. One day I had called him on my spare because he hasn't been answering my texts and when he had answered I heard a girl in the back ground, yes his 16 year old brother was home at the time but still many things were running through my head about what was going on. When he's with a girl and I ask him what he's doing he'll say I'm with a friend, every time he's with a girl he says a friend, and I instantly know it's a girl, he doesn't tell me it's a girl because he knows how I feel about him and other girls hanging out. I admit I do have trust issues, I think because he has so many friends that are girls and because he's such a good friend to them he's going to eventually cheat on me. I want to trust him but I don't know how. Should we just end what we have? What should I do? Please help me.

[liz28]

First off communication is the key. If the two of you are the phone and you hear crickets because the two of you have nothing to say to each other then this is a sign not to be with one another.

Secondly, it is good u realize you have trust issues but just know all guys aren't cheaters. And it is however for people have the opposite sex to be friends.

[talaniman]

With trust issues, a long distance relationship is extremely tough. Not a wise thing for a teen to really get involved in. You are better off working on your own issues.

[kay1995]

Sadly I've been in your position, where you feel as though love just does not equal trust, not always, best thing you can do is tell him what your telling us and if he can't resolve things with you, then you got your answer<3

[jbots10]

I can tell you right now, although there are a lot of POS guys out there, there are good ones.

I know from my past that I have had a girlfriend and have had tons of friends as girls. I have chilled with them alone, even watched movies sitting on the same couch, but I am loyal to my girlfriend and whiether that person has a penis or vagina there still just a person. If he has a past of cheating, or you bringing up this instance of him saying he's just with a "friend" then that would be something I would dive a little deeper into. Im a 21 year old guy and I know how guys think, I just don't act on those thoughts when most other men do. Talk to him, trust me. Tell him how your feeling. I can relate to his position and if my girlfriend wernt being such a c**t right now, I would want her to be honest with me about everything.


COMMUNICATION IS KEY.