[brimore]

I am a mother of a four year old it's a long story on how I ended up the non custodial parent but to make it short I left an abusive relationship with the father. I had to make the choice to leave my son or take him but I had no way to support him though I loved him in his best interest I left him with his father. A few months later my mom decided she would help in supporting my son so we went to court since I couldn't just take him the grandparents wouldn't let me. I ended up with just visitation rights joint custody a month later they started keeping him from me and wouldn't let me excersice my visitation. A few months later we went to court again same thing happened. Its been two years and I haven't seen my son I've seen his father and asked if he would put me on child support or I make a bank account for our son for when he is 18. He responded we don't need you or your money he is fine without you in his life. I was court ordered to pay support when I'm 18 1/2 and now I have to pay. It has been painful dealing with this and the courts don't do much to help. Even if I pay I still won't see my son cause they'll find a way to keep him from me so I made the horrible decision to give up my rights it hurts that my son doesn't know who I am. My ex is married and has another kid possible another from an ex. I want to know if I give up my rights would I still be obligated to pay child support for the next 14 years.

[ScottGem]

Where did you get the ide you can give up your rights? There is this myth that a parent can just voluntarily give up their rights. But its only a myth.

Only a court can terminate rights and courts are very reluctant to do so. And they will not terminate rights just to let a parent out of paying support. Your only hope is having the step mother adopt.

In the meantime why haven't you gone back to court and ask that he be held in contempt for not allowing visitation?

[brimore]

I haven't gone back to court because all he is going to get is a slap on the wrist. My lawyer had all the evidence against my ex that I abandoned my child. I remain in contact attempted to see him. The judge went with joint custody so that my son can get to know me so that when final hearing came he would decide which parent gets primary custody.

[ScottGem]

If the judge ordered joint custody and visitation, he won't be happy if the father ignores his order and doesn't allow you visitation.

[brimore]

After the first time it happened the judge didn't do much about it didn't even say anything about it all that happened was supervised visits became non supervised that's all. The worst part is my ex wasn't really keeping him from me it was his parents. They did everything for him they even take care of my son more than he does. We share the same friends and I hear a lot of stories about how my son is treated but of course the system doesn't choose to see that.