[tiggerxx]

I have been with my boyfriend for around 3 and a half months, and I love him. He is my first love and makes me so happy, we have been very happy for 3 months and he loves me too, but recently he is feeling confused and says he feel like he needs some space to sort out things with a job and college. He says he feels like **** because he can never buy me anything and doesn't have any money most of the time. He used to stay every night but now he is only staying once or twice a week, I feel like he doesn't want the relationship anymore and I am so scared of losing him. He says he still wants to be with me and he loves me but sometimes he feels like he would want to sleep with other girls that he sees. He says it makes him feel **** when he thinks like that because he loves me. When we are together everything is great and just normal. I know he would never cheat on me, he has promised he would never ever do that to me and that if he ever changed his mind about the relationship he would tell me. I'm so in love with him it is tearing me apart to think I might lose him. He lost his virginity to me and he says that he wished he had slept with other people first because now he is with me, he wants to be in a long term relationship but at the same time he wants to be able to just get with other girls, he says any feelings he has had about wanting to sleep with other girls have always been overpowered by his love for me. But I can't stop worrying, I really thought we were happy and that everything was going well. I don't know what to think, should I worry too much or just carry on? I'm so scared of being left with a broken heart.

[talaniman]

Relax, you are both young and inexperienced with life in general, and you both have many things going through your heads that putting stresses on you.

You are both strangers also, so I imagine just dealing with each other in this brand new relationship has to be confusing as well as all sorts of feelings have to be dealt with.

You are supposed to feel confused, and overwhelmed with all you both have going on. Who wouldn't be? But just step back, and relax, and deal with one thing at a time. Handle what you have control over, and let him handle what he can control, and get through this mess together, by being patient, and understanding, with yourself, and him.

Nothing wrong with stepping back and catching your breath for a minute or three. If you need more time take it. Its all about facts, and not just feelings, and the way you deal with your own, as you learn about his. The trick is to take your time, and not be overwhelmed by your problems, and talk them out.

Relationships are always a risk, and a broken heart is something we all take a chance with, especially when we have moved along at a very fast pace early on and really do have to step back and evaluate ourselves in an honest, realistic way, before we can proceed.

[tiggerxx]

My mum said I should relax too because it will either work out or it won't. I know it might sound silly that after 3 months I love him, but its true. And its my first real relationship any I have had before have been with boys who were horrible and used me. My boyfriend now, treats me like a princess and is always telling me how much he loves me, I just don't know what changed recently but I am finding it all really hard :( I don't want to seem to needy as I'm scared I'll push him away

[PhilTayz]

Give yourself sometime. Relax and think about it from another perspective, while you ask yourself if that is really what you want.
And don't be afraid of having a broken heart. It will give you experience and, if you deal with it, it will make you stop being afraid of it which will make you seek for new people and have fun with them.
From the time you may spend alone now, you may also see that not having a boyfriend may be better than having one, as long as you still have friends.
Whatever you decision is... Good luck.