[Lovebird12]

So recently me and this boy broke up... but it wasn't like any old relationship it was the best one I every had!! I love him... Not trying sound all lovey dovey but he was the sweetest person... took me out every weekend called every night he always kept it real with me letting me me how he feels about the relationship. Until school started :/ we both went to different schools and but was busy after school because of work. It was our first year of college and the work was just piling up. So instead of spending weekend together be both spend it alone doing school work. So the relationship started to go down hill from then on. The phone calls stops and We just wasn't seeing each other. So we started to part. Am a pretty laid back person so I won't say anything but he told me we aren't working out so I guess that was the first warning we decide to try to work on things. But every time I texted or call he wouldn't pick up and then would text are call back like at 3am when am sleeping. I mean I was really in love with this boy and he was in love with me( so he say) should I try to get us back together or should I try to move on. I mean they say if you love them let them go and if they come back then that love was real, right? I miss him a lot what should I do?

[Cat1864]

I think it is too soon for you to think about getting back together with him or starting a new relationship. Give yourself some time to heal so that you don't carry old issues into your next relationship. He needs that time and space, too.

If the circumstances haven't changed, then you would just be starting a 'revolving door' relationship. It may be at this stage in your lives you aren't meant to be a couple.

Keep in mind that even if in the future you do get back together, the relationship will NOT be the same as it was. You will both need to be aware of the changes and adapt or a new relationship won't work.

Good luck.

[talaniman]

Distance relationships are very hard to maintain, and you to didn't work out specific times, or days that you both would be available for each other, so your schedules conflicted. Random calling, and not getting someone can be frustrating for even normal couples, but it gets magnified even more because it makes you wonder what the other is doing, and why they cannot just drop what they are doing to talk to you.

No matter how much you say you love each other, love alone cannot hold a relationship together, hard work does, and that's difficult when you are apart for long periods, even with a lot of planning before hand, unless there is a common goal you are working toward together.

I think you take him at his word that he is tired of this distance thing, and let him go to do his own thing, and you do yours. You both have a lot on your plates and are very busy making adjustments to college to really maintain a long distance relationship, especially since one of you isn't willing to carry his load.

[nikkicourt27]

I look at this way, God people in your life that is suppose to be there and those who are only seasonal people meaning are not suppose to be there. It is hard to have a long distance relationship but if it was suppose to work out and you all were suppose to be together then guess what you would be with him and both of you would make time to see each because he is the one. Seasonal things change and no time for each other... you decide which one he is and that would answer your question about trying to get back with him.

[Homegirl 50]

he told me we aren't working out

I know you may want to be with him, but these are his words to you.
Leave him alone. Don't even entertain the thought of getting back with him.