[needshelpbad]

OK I have two kids with this man I've never married but we have had a relationship on and off for 5 years. My question is, how do I go about getting his rights taken away if ONE: he doesn't do anything for them. Doesn't buy them food, clothes, diapers, etc... SECOND: he parties ALL the time doesn't care about anything but himself. THIRD: He has 5 other kids with 3 other girls 7 kids total including mine. And doesn't do anything for any of them... So... Im wondering if he has kids every where doesn't take care of any of them or support them and just keeps having babies then why would I want someone like that for my kids... I mean I left him a long time ago but I don't want nothing to do with him I want him to leave me and my sons alone ( he doesn't come around to see them anyways) and I want to know how I can get him to give up his rights or how I go about that... I do not want that kind of life for my kids. Plus he's always in and out of jail he's very abusive, very jealous, insecure and everything else that can go wrong with a man... you name it that's him... I just don't want him to be part of anything I do or what my boys do.. If he tries ( which I doubt) He doesn't have a job he's 23 and has had only 3 jobs in his life... He lives with his mom and grandma, and doesn't have a car.. So... how do I do this??

[justcurious55]

You can't make him give up his rights. It the court finds him unfit, they may decide to take away his rights. Or if you marry and your husband wants to adopt your children, and their bio father agrees to it, me hay give up his rights, if the court agrees to it all. Do you currently have a custody order in place?

[ScottGem]

Please pay more attention to posting guidelines. There is a Read First sticky in the Children forum (where this was moved from) that directs questions of a legal nature to this forum.

Had you paid attention to the guidelines you might have noticed another sticky at the top of this forum that deals with this issue.

The bottom line is that only a court can terminate rights and courts will rarely do so. I see no grounds for getting a TPR. But since he doesn't do anything why are you worried?

I also have to ask how you could have ONE let alone TWO kids with a man you describe as lazy, irresponsible and abusive.

[cdad]

OK I have two kids with this man ive never married but we have had a relationship on and off for 5 years. My question is, how do i go about getting his rights taken away if ONE: he doesnt do anything for them. doesnt buy them food, clothes, diapers, etc... SECOND: he parties ALL the time doesnt care about anything but himself. THIRD: He has 5 other kids with 3 other girls 7 kids total including mine. and doesnt do anything for any of them... So... Im wondering if he has kids every where doesnt take care of any of them or support them and just keeps having babies then why would I want someone like that for my kids... I mean I left him a long time ago but I dont want nothing to do with him I want him to leave me and my sons alone ( he doesnt come around to see them anyways) and I want to know how I can get him to give up his rights or how I go about that... I do not want that kind of life for my kids. Plus hes always in and out of jail hes very abusive, very jealous, insecure and everything else that can go wrong with a man... you name it thats him.... I just dont want him to be part of anything I do or what my boys do.. If he tries ( which I doubt) He doesnt have a job hes 23 and has had only 3 jobs in his life... He lives with his mom and grandma, and doesnt have a car.. So... how do I do this????

Since you decided to pick this winner your stuck with him for now. You give all these faults. Did they just appear overnight ? That is what the courts are going to be asking you. You can't get his rights removed so easy. And why would the courts allow it because you chose him to be the father of the children ?

Sorry but this rights removal thing doesn't fly very far in covering your mistakes.

[twinkiedooter]

7 kids and this winner is only 23? What where you thinking?

Does this man pay child support towards any of these children? If he does not then why not?

You need to contact Child Support and get them to collect child support money from this guy. Or he can sit in jail where he can't impregnate anyone else to add more kids to his population explosion. Not paying child support can and will land him in jail - where he belongs.

[Fr_Chuck]

You are not going to get his rights taken away, ( and it sounds like he is not using his rights anyway)

You get a child custody giving you full legal and physcial custody, if he wants to ask for visits, he can ( and will get at least min visits)

You get a order for child support, he is againnot required to buy "things" but can be required to pay support.
But if you have not even went to get a child support order, he does not legally owe anything, since it has not bee ordered

[JudyKayTee]

Did he change between meeting him (when he was a nice guy) and turning into this jerk (when you had two children) or was he always a jerk?

[needshelpbad]

OK he only had 2 kids before mine came along the oldest he has was with a white girl he's mexican her parents were races so they moved her away. He has no contact with that boy AT ALL anymore. Then he had another boy he rarely sees. Then my oldest came along but he also got a girl pregnant 2 months after me. Then her but I didn't know then me again.. he was OK when we first met he still had that anger problem and aggressiveness but he got worse than what he is now... So yeah he's always been a jerk... I do have him on child support for one of my kids and he is in jail RIGHT now as we speak but not for child support burglery for trying to knock someone's door down to kick there (excuse my language) and resisting arrest... don't know how long he's going to be in there but I think that's were he needs to be

[needshelpbad]

I don't know why I had 2 kids with this man I just always figured he would change... that's what he told me all the time was that he would change if I got with him and I did because I loved him... but now I don't know

[ScottGem]

We all understand the "he swore he would change" stuff. But that usually gets old quickly.

The bottom line is that you did have children with this male (I would not call him a man) and now you have to live with your decision.

[needshelpbad]

Thanks for the advice everyone... it gives me some understanding of what I might be able to do and what can't be done.