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Nov 24, 2009, 12:07 PM
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I'm in love with two people
Maybe I should start from the beginning.. about three years ago I went to another state with my friend and I met this guy and really started to like him. I didn't get my hopes up because I figured it was just a spring fling, but it became a lot more then that. He came over a few times and we ended up falling in love. We tried to have a relationship but it was to hard and we ended up breaking up. He got multiple other girlfriends and it hurt me because he still told me he loved me. The only reason he had these relationships is so that it would convinve his parents that he was finally over me. We talked every night for two and a half years, we said we loved each other and we said nothing was going to tear us apart and to me that was enough. I ended up getting a boyfriend. I was planning on still talking to my ex secretly because I eventually wanted to be with him. We somehow ended up not talking. Months passed by and a thought I was getting over him and I was really happy with my new boyfriend. But I'm not over him, and I know I never will be and I don't know what to do because I'm also in love with my current boyfriend. But I know if I could, I would end it in a second for my ex. What do I do?
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Nov 24, 2009, 12:21 PM
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If there is any chance you and your ex could get back together, then you need to end it now before your boyfriend becomes even more attached, if there is no chance you and your ex can be together, then like they always said Love the ONE your WITH!
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Marriage Expert
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Nov 24, 2009, 01:45 PM
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Do you really 'love' your ex or is it the fantasy of that romance you 'love'?
It sounds like you and your ex have not really had very long to get to know each other in person. Yes, you can forge a good relationship long distance, but that doesn't mean that you really get to know the other person as well as you would when you can see actions as well as hear words.
Your current boyfriend is closer to reality. You see him and his actions. You can see if words and actions match up. You expect more from him simply because he is tangible.
I think you need to take a step back and decide what you really want in a relationship. If you are undecided, then maybe you need to stay away from both of them and let yourself heal before you get into a new relationship with someone better suited to all of your needs.
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Nov 24, 2009, 05:12 PM
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So basically since you can't make up your mind you cheat on them both? Your looking for love in all the wrong ways. That's not love dear, No way!
Leave them both alone, until you can make up your mind and be a great loyal partner.
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Nov 24, 2009, 05:41 PM
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If you're not happy with your current bf then I'd say it's time to be honest with him about it. Talk to the ex-bf and make sure that there's even a chance that you have to build on. He may have moved on himself.
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Family & People Expert
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Nov 24, 2009, 08:20 PM
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Harshness warning
Why don't you be single until you figure out what you want, instead of leading both guys on?
Have some decency and respect, as opposed to being so selfish.
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