[tcmue912]

I'm in high school.
My boyfriend is a senior and I'm a junior.
I've been dating this guy for 7 months.
Things have been going great.
But, I'm starting to feel like he is just using me for sex.
I stay at school for lunch everyday, but he doesn't stay with me, he goes out with his friends.
I recently checked his myspace profile, and there are comments to a girl saying "we need to chill" and "you call me""no you call me" like those types of comments.
And I was a little suspicious so I confronted him about it.
He said they've been friends since middle school.
So I added her.
But she just ignored it and told james that I try to add her every day.
I don't know how I should handle the situation.
I like to let him have his space.
I'm not the type of girl who drinks, smokes, or partys.
He is though.
We are both jocks. So he's pretty popular and so am I.
I tell him that I don't like him partying because there are so many drunk girls and he might do something he didn't mean to do.
I feel like I've had so much with him that I don't want to give it up
HELP PLEASE:(

[tcmue912]

I'm in high school.
My boyfriend is a senior and I'm a junior.
I've been dating this guy for 7 months.
Things have been going great.
But, I'm starting to feel like he is just using me for sex.
I stay at school for lunch everyday, but he doesn't stay with me, he goes out with his friends.
I recently checked his myspace profile, and there are comments to a girl saying "we need to chill" and "you call me""no you call me" like those types of comments.
And I was a little suspicious so I confronted him about it.
He said they've been friends since middle school.
So I added her.
But she just ignored it and told james that I try to add her every day.
I don't know how I should handle the situation.
I like to let him have his space.
I'm not the type of girl who drinks, smokes, or partys.
He is though.
We are both jocks. So he's pretty popular and so am I.
I tell him that I don't like him partying because there are so many drunk girls and he might do something he didn't mean to do.
I feel like I've had so much with him that I don't want to give it up
HELP PLEASE

[Clough]

Hi, tcmue912!

It could very well be that he's just using you for sex. How about trying to give him a lot of space for awhile and you getting busy with some other things, like maybe not being so attached to him and being friends with some other guys as well as involved in some other activities? Then, you can see how he reacts.

Besides that, if he's a senior and you're a junior and having sex with him, if he's already turned 18 or will be going to turn 18, his having sex with you could turn into a real legal issue and much trouble for him.

Just some thoughts for you...

[justcurious55]

Yes, you're too jealous. If you keep doing what you're doing, bugging him about it, daily trying to add his girl, you'll inly push him away. Try finding other things for you to do together to get him away from the party scene. A sober night of midnight bowling. Min golf. Movies.

[JBeaucaire]

He's not using you for sex. You're using each other for sex. Right?

Since you've already allowed that stage to come and settle in, then all the rest you've brought up is moot info. Statistically, you're relationship will be over by the time you graduate. I'm sorry for that... the math is now against you. It happens.

You still have two good HS years left. You could perhaps head this off by eliminating the sexual relationship and perhaps the bf/gf titles. This could/should open up some interesting revitalization in your relationship, or some new ones with others that won't be wrapped around sex.

Won't it be great to be pursued again? Remember how great that was?