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    #141

    Apr 3, 2010, 05:05 PM

    I want to text him and tell him "I'm sorry" and how much "I've learned from my mistake," and tell him how much "I want to spend my life with him, and grow old with him and face challenges and rewards of life with him."

    And when/if he rejects this, than it is another push in the direction that "it is over!"

    Bad idea?
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    #142

    Apr 3, 2010, 05:18 PM

    Sounds desperate, and like you're begging to me. What do you think?
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    #143

    Apr 3, 2010, 08:42 PM

    Bad idea... don't you think it will hurt more if he:
    a) doesn't respond
    Or
    b) just flat out says no

    Think about your feelings... I would let it go. Trust me I know it is hard. I'm in the same boat as you right now. I think about texting my ex all the time, but fact is what good will it do? Makes it harder on us, and easier on them. I strongly advise against contacting him in any way
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    #144

    Apr 3, 2010, 08:46 PM

    Maybe you should read originals thread!
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    #145

    Apr 3, 2010, 09:12 PM

    Haha maybe than she will realize how useless it is and how much more pain you have to go through
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    #146

    Apr 3, 2010, 09:37 PM

    Today is April 2nd. I have not talked, texted, or searched social network for my ex. My mini goal is to go through the whole month of doing this!! Little by little
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    #147

    Apr 3, 2010, 09:49 PM

    How about when you get the urge to contact your ex, you do a healthy activity, such as:
    - talk with other friends
    - exercise
    - listen to new music
    - help other people on the forum!
    - teach your dog a new trick
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    #148

    Apr 3, 2010, 09:58 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by peekcachu View Post
    Now I'm fearing that I will be alone all my life....
    I remember feeling like this after a really big love ended.

    In hindsight, it was silly. At the moment, it felt real.

    Its hard to be patient and hard to get out of your own head.
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    #149

    Apr 3, 2010, 10:07 PM

    Any time you have the urge to contact him come here... we will give you a million reasons not to lol
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    #150

    Apr 4, 2010, 07:21 PM

    I miss him terribly. I'm here because I'm taking some of the advices. I made the mistake of going to see his dating profile again. Why, why, why, why?? /
    ARGGG!
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    #151

    Apr 4, 2010, 07:53 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by peekcachu View Post
    I miss him terribly. I'm here becuase I'm taking some of the advices. I made the mistake of going to see his dating profile again. Why, why, why, why????/
    ARGGG!!
    It's "Temporary relief , to a terminal problem"


    And what your doing is numbing the pain but prolonging the healing process .
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    #152

    Apr 4, 2010, 07:57 PM

    What can I do? I've tried doing my work. I've tried watching a movie. I've tried going to bed, while listening to a soothing song... ARRRR
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    #153

    Apr 4, 2010, 08:01 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by peekcachu View Post
    What can I do? I've tried doing my work. I've tried watching a movie. I've tried going to bed, while listening to a soothing song....ARRRR
    You can start by doing what we told you at the start... NO CONTACT!!

    Because the times you fall hard are when you break it right? ;)

    Look it's not easy but unless your willing to put the work into sticking to NC and do the hard yards your going to be stuck where you are now for a lot longer.
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    #154

    Apr 4, 2010, 08:02 PM

    Keep doing all of those things and more.

    Be strong & patient. It takes time. We have all felt this way.

    The sooner you stop obsessing over him & focus on you, the sooner you will see some light at the end of this tunnel.

    Tunnel vision, you know?

    Just keep up the NC & resist the urges.

    You will laugh later and wonder why he was SOOOO important.
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    #155

    Apr 4, 2010, 08:04 PM

    No contact. No contact. No contact
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    #156

    Apr 4, 2010, 08:09 PM

    Yup, yup & yup...
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    #157

    Apr 5, 2010, 09:06 PM

    Why do I miss him so? Why do I have to think of him everyday? I want to go back to before I meet him... when I was carefree... although I wouldn't learn the things I learned.

    I just miss him so much! I want to hear his voice, see his smiling face, and feel his hugs. :(

    I know I sound needy and desperate, but that's how I'm feeling at the moment.
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    #158

    Apr 5, 2010, 09:10 PM

    "I want to go back to before I meet him.... when I was carefree....although I wouldn't learn the things I learned."

    True that!! So do it.

    There will be other hugs. Don't you worry.
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    #159

    Apr 5, 2010, 09:12 PM

    I know there will be other hugs... I just want them from him. I really, really, really miss him. It gets really bad during the night when its quite and I think of him and only him.
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    #160

    Apr 5, 2010, 09:16 PM

    What you want isn't happening.

    Not everyone is meant to be together. So why dwell?

    Sounds like realization hasn't truly set in.

    I know exactly how you feel.

    Time to let him go.
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