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kctiger · Apr 27, 2009, 06:27 AM

My fellow AMHD'ers... good morning. What a weekend huh? Rome, your team got my boy Jeremy Maclin, he will do AWESOME, while my team had one of the most boring drafts in recent memory.

On topic now. So, as most of you know, I had a terrible time getting through my break up. I was a wreck and I do mean wreck. Watch the movie "Forgetting Sarah Marshall" and that was me in a nutshell. At any rate, to show those of you who are in the position I was a few months ago that it WILL get better, I have a quick story for you. I went out with a ton of friends on Friday night to a local bar. My ex has been known to frequent this bar, but I didn't really care at all if she was there are or not. Well, low and behold, not more than five minutes after we get there she walks in and gets on the dance floor with a few of her friends. My friends immediately let me know the situation, in which case I walk up behind her, pat her on the back and we give each other a hug... she says hi to a couple of my friends and proceeds to bolt off the dance floor.

I then see her walk out onto the patio (some of my friends like to smoke) and she stops dead in her tracks when she locks eyes with me, and immediately walks back into the bar. So, turns out, she was the one who had to act like a complete spaz (have no idea why she acted this weird) and it just goes to show you that if you truly want to get over a break up, you can. I had no problem with her being there, and she, on the other hand, acted as if it was a fairly big deal. What's my point?: You will come out on top eventually, so stick to the NC, and build a great life that you enjoy, around you. You will get there. A few months ago I would have been the one freaking out to see my ex, and I would have for sure gathered my friends and rolled out of the bar (would have been off like a prom dress). Those of you who are an emotional wreck, think about this situation happening to you. How would you react? I know the first time it happened to me, I freaked out, and burnt rubber to vacate the area. Life does go on, and it is not the end of the world.

Carry on my friends!! :cool:

mudweiser · Apr 27, 2009, 06:31 AM

Great story KC ;)

I wish I can be NC with my ex ::gagging sounds::

Have a good one,

Sarah

starlite1 · Apr 27, 2009, 06:33 AM

Great Post, KC. I think a lot of people will appreciate this as they heal. This is a light at the end of the tunnel. And, good for you! I'm glad you are feeling good! :-)

kctiger · Apr 27, 2009, 06:37 AM

To tell you the truth, it was comical to watch the way she reacted. I couldn't have scripted it better had it in been a movie...

I wanted to just yell at her to... well... you know...

CARRY ON... :cool:

Romefalls19 · Apr 27, 2009, 07:00 AM

I know how you feel KC, my ex won't even approach me when I am with my fiancé. She has made inappropriate comments to me about how things would be if we were together. She has even went as far to say "I wouldn't have picked a ring like that, it's not my style." my friend immediately replied to her "that's why it's on his fiance's finger and not yours"

Btw, I am very pleased with the Eagles picks this year, surprisingly.

jjwoodhull · Apr 27, 2009, 07:06 AM

Great story KC. It is true that time heals and NC is the most quick way to get there.

kctiger · Apr 27, 2009, 07:07 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

I know how you feel KC, my ex won't even approach me when I am with my fiance. She has made inappropriate comments to me about how things would be if we were together. She has even went as far to say "I wouldn't have picked a ring like that, it's not my style." my friend immediately replied back to her "that's why it's on his fiance's finger and not yours"

Btw, I am very pleased with the Eagles picks this year, surprisingly.

J-Mac is a STUD. I am immediately an Eagle's fan after this, and I thank GOD he didn't go to Oakland. That place just screws up the careers of so many promising young players.

Romefalls19 · Apr 27, 2009, 07:12 AM

Ha ha my mom is a Raiders fan, they are just horrible, they immediately ruin careers and spend way too much money on players only to cut them later.

jmw0713 · Apr 27, 2009, 08:26 AM

Great post. I think it is great to tell people who are just starting the healing process about the progress we have made.

Personally, I am at the point where if I hear anything about my ex, it doesn't bother me. I almost to the point where if I saw her somewhere, it wouldn't bother me either. I figure in a more weeks I'll be able to safely say I have moved on.