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peekcachu · Mar 28, 2010, 08:48 PM

Feeling blue...

sabrewolfe · Mar 28, 2010, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by peekcachu

feeling blue.....

Im feeling curious. Would you like to fill us in?

peekcachu · Mar 28, 2010, 08:56 PM

I thought my meeting with my ex. Went well, but we barely got to talk. We met for the movies and than that was it. Our original plan was to go to the museum. I'm just feeling needy, I guess. Seeing him made me really missed him and he was so pleasant towards me. I will be fine, I know. Just feeling blue...

sabrewolfe · Mar 28, 2010, 08:58 PM

Originally Posted by peekcachu

I thought my meeting with my ex. went well, but we barely got to talk. We met for the movies and than that was it. Our original plan was to go to the museum. I'm just feeling needy, I guess. Seeing him made me really missed him and he was so pleasant towards me. I will be fine, I know. Just feeling blue...

Have you and him made any plans to get together again?

vanheart · Mar 28, 2010, 09:01 PM

You had another expectation then he did here. Or does, for that matter.

That's why you are blue, huh. Starting to realize things...

Yup, sucks however you want to slice it, when it comes to breakups, but..

"Seeing him made me really missed him"

Again, your doing. Don't do it any longer.

More heartache? Or...

vanheart · Mar 28, 2010, 09:13 PM

I like blue sometimes, when I need it, Im on a project where the brand is blue. Yeah, so..

But certainly don't like feeling blue.

Black & white first. Reality. Sketches of how you see it happening. Then the color.

sabrewolfe · Mar 28, 2010, 09:16 PM

Originally Posted by vanheart

I like blue sometimes, when I need it, Im on a project where the brand is blue. Yeah, so..

But certainly dont like feeling blue.

Black & white first. Reality. Sketches of how you see it happening. Then the color.

Ok, now you got me confused, you know, the eggshell white satin finish shade of confusion.

vanheart · Mar 28, 2010, 09:19 PM

Exactly.

Sometime that's hard to crack.

sabrewolfe · Mar 28, 2010, 09:20 PM

So what say you Peekachu? Is there another date lined up?

vanheart · Mar 28, 2010, 09:23 PM

Yeah, whattya say?

friend4u178 · Mar 28, 2010, 09:26 PM

Hope you guys aren't encouraging her to have more False hope!!

Just sayin' ;)

vanheart · Mar 28, 2010, 09:35 PM

Nope. Just the opposite.

Didn't think that she should meet up this time, let alone next.
Said so.

Thanks for clearing things up, though. Excuse my cynicism. Just trying to break consciousness a bit.

False hope. That what this tread's about now.

peekcachu · Mar 30, 2010, 05:01 AM

From the sound of it, he is not opposed to another meeting. When we said goodbye, he told me "we'll talk."

Athough right now, I feel more down than anything. I feel very low. I'm not usually the one making all the effort. And that's the thing that hurt the most. After reading all these threads, if one person makes all the effort, its not going to work. I want to wooo him back, but I'm feeling unhappy while doing it. He's giving me sign that he wants to still hang out, but I'm too eager to get back to where we were and I'm afraid that he is not ready to do that. It just hurts no matter how I look at it. :(

talaniman · Mar 30, 2010, 07:28 AM

With the history you both have why should he be so gung ho to get back to the confusion and conflicts you had before.

That's asking a lot and its not realistic. If things have really changed it will take time to realize it and even more time to believe it.

He is supposed to be very cautious because no matter what you say now, the past is all he has to go by as to what you have been through before.

peekcachu · Mar 30, 2010, 05:22 PM

I would be too if I was in his position. I don't blame him, I'm just very unhappy at the moment. Prior to this, he made it a point to always tell me how much he cared and loved me. Now, I'm just very uncertain. I don't know if he is seeing others while talking to me. Not that I have any rights to him, but it just hurts. I really wanted to text him today, but stopped myself. I'm not going to push and look needy.

I'm going back to getting know me.

vanheart · Mar 30, 2010, 05:30 PM

Yeah, it hurts when peoples words don't match there actions.

Especially in romantic relationships. And breakups.

But, hang in there. You will get through this. Just don't trip too hard on him anymore. You are already being strong.

"I'm going back to getting know me."

YES, YES & YES!! That's the key.

Being in control of our thoughts, words, and actions.

peekcachu · Mar 31, 2010, 04:42 AM

I want to get through this! I'm afraid its getting worse! I haven't contact or anything, but that meeting really messed up my thinking.

talaniman · Mar 31, 2010, 04:51 AM

Why?

peekcachu · Mar 31, 2010, 06:58 PM

I am stuck. Before, I told myself its over. I kept repeating it over and over again. After meeting him again, I think there might be a chance, but a very small chance... and sometime I feel that I'm fooling myself. I want to be strong and accept that his lack of contact and effort should speak for itself and even if he doesn't say it, its over. I want to be strong and stop these thoughts! :(

vanheart · Mar 31, 2010, 07:06 PM

You will.

Meeting with him didn't get the results you expected in the back of your mind because of false hope.

But what it did was push you over the edge to realization.

That's when we hurt the most.

BUT, with that, we can finally get on and find that strength.

I know its incredibly hard not to dwell. And time will certainly help.

Just make sure that you embrace the good things you have going and look for more of them, whatever they are.

When I was going through this, I wanted nothing more to heal & get back to my happy self.

No one was going to stop me in doing that.

You will be better because of this. Remind yourself of that.

Its OK. Happens to the best of us.