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    Mar 5, 2014, 04:38 PM
    Thanks for everyone's unbiased opinions! I just saw that he created a new profile page on the dating site... some poor unsuspecting soul will come along and fall into his trap... too sad over a "death" to meet me but not too sad to create a new dating profile? Hmm. Glad I avoided this disaster. I feel sorry for him actually. :( I have to accept I may never know the truth and forget about it.. but it consumed 3 months of my life I will never get back.
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    Mar 5, 2014, 05:51 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Lyn43 View Post
    Thanks for everyone's unbiased opinions! I just saw that he created a new profile page on the dating site... some poor unsuspecting soul will come along and fall into his trap... too sad over a "death" to meet me but not too sad to create a new dating profile? Hmm. Glad I avoided this disaster. I feel sorry for him actually. :( I have to accept I may never know the truth and forget about it.. but it consumed 3 months of my life I will never get back.

    Everyone has had one of "THOSE" relationships... meaning time wasted you will never get back. Look at it this way... look at how much time in the future you DIDN'T waste on him now you found out.

    If this hadn't happened how much longer might this have gone on?

    Look at the positive side of this... it was ONLY 3 months... I've wasted over a year on a girl who in hindsight I should have walked away from after a couple weeks... you take it in stride and learn from the mistake. That's how you gain wisdom... nobody was born with it.
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    Mar 5, 2014, 07:51 PM
    Both adults so nothing wrong with the sexting, and skype,? Was it video skype, and was it at night from his home,
    Even then, his wife may work evenings

    There are lots of married men, that use sites for for extra sex. Happens all the time. And married women doing the same.

    But the changing the mind at the meeting, my first issue, is texting and all the contact for 3 months and only 1 1/2 hour a part. That is less than a hour if you meet 1/2 way. It sounds like his wife found out about over night plans, or he got chicken that his wife would find out and stopped.

    I have a close friend, she is married, but her and her husband have a more open relationship, she tests and sexts with several men, she calls it the chase, she really enjoys that attention. She does meet a few, but is very picky. But guess what, same issues, after talking for a while, maybe 80 percent does not even show up.

    My wife and I are another example, I meet her online, she was talking to two men, me and someone else. She was to have a date with other guy the day before, he never showed up. I did.
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    Mar 5, 2014, 08:45 PM
    Thankfully I'm not real upset about it. I'm now just curious about his behavior.
    I was so excited all these months to finally meet him. Seems like a real letdown of sorts... like you're anticipating Christmas then it gets cancelled! Ha!
    I guess I am lacking excitement in my life... divorced with children and a career... I'm finally ready to date again and put myself out there... guess I was acting too risky with this guy.

    Maybe he does this to women, texts/sexts/calls with no intention of ever meeting? Perhaps he has deeper issues. I'm pretty sure he's finished with me.. guess he got whatever he was looking for..

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