[kreeshol]

Both of us want to keep the dog, so that may get legal and messy. She can't take it now anyway cause she rents a room. Funny timing, she just messaged me saying she took her furniture out of the house. So I asked her to leave me the keys.

[Fr_Chuck]

Life is going to move on, there will be a new girlfriend, who will not want the "ex" coming over. And dogs are taken care of or taken to a doggie day care by millions every day when they work.

But this is a legal issue, but it is fairly basic, who used their money to buy animal, and it is owned by them, unless it was a gift to the other.

[kreeshol]

So mixtape is definitely out. Heh

Yeah, I know, life goes on, it's just hard with a dog that is like a kid. After our last conversation, I see now that I might have to get legal with this. I'm trying to avoid that to save face and to avoid nuking that bridge, but she insists that it is hers. She works as a vet tech, and pays the vet bills (she refuses me pay any of them), of course, that was part of her expenses when we lived together, I paid rent, she paid bills(including the dog bills). But I did pay for the adoption, and am trying to secure paperwork to prove it. I was willing to share the dog, but now it seems I might have to preemptively get legal paperwork taken care of in the event it gets nasty, which it probably will.

[Wondergirl]

Don't use the poor dog as a pawn in your game with her. If she's a vet tech, she should know of all sorts of doggy daycare possibilities. Adopt another dog from the animal shelter, if you must have a dog, and give another homeless creature a home.

[vanheart]

Great idea!

Label it NC.
Includes remixes of false hope.

Kidding. Screw that. Mixtapes are for friends.
Make a few for yourself. I did.
Still am.

[kreeshol]

vanheart: :)

Wondergirl: I really am trying to avoid using the dog as a pawn. My end game with the dog is not to get my ex back. That dog is literally my best friend in the world, and has been for a while now. She's all I got, and I can't entertain the idea of losing her, at least not now. So if my ex is going to push to take her, I can't just stand by, I have to be ready to fight. I am all for the idea of a shared situation. But will not go for total loss of my only companion. Finding daycare for dogs where I live is not a problem. I can afford to take care of the dog, and can afford to hire someone to come to my house to play with her if need be. I make way more $ than my ex, and I have more free time to care for the dog as well.

[Wondergirl]

A shared situation with the dog guarantees you will keep the ex in your life.

[kreeshol]

That's a good point. Something I can't avoid at the moment sadly, but long term, could prove problematic, or it could be easier than it is now. I'm not sure.

[vanheart]

You have complete control of your life.
That's includes pets & ugh, exes.

Stop it. Tha dog? Cmon. Dogs going to be fine. You?
Stop caring about her.

Ready to put up a fight? Let go, man, really.
About what? You crying & her moving on?

[kreeshol]

vanheart: You're right, I'm the one who needs to come to grips with what is going on and take control of my life. But if your asking me to let her take the dog and move on, that is currently out of the question. That dog is my only close friend, as sad as it sounds. That is the fight I was talking about, not fighting to get my ex back. (The dog is female, so the "her" might be confusing.) Quite frankly, I know I'm a better man than the new guy, and I am starting to come to terms with the fact that it's her loss, not mine. It's a process...

[vanheart]

Ok, good.
So keep the dog.
She's got someone else.

Don't let the dog come between you and her new boyfriend.

Keep the dog. Let go of her.
Sorry, I should have said that earlier.

Screw her.