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    #281

    May 26, 2009, 04:06 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    i wouldnt of talked dirty to her, she asked me too. then i did. and when were done she said that
    So you can't win, no matter what you do.
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    #282

    May 26, 2009, 04:10 PM

    You are so whipped! I give up.

    Call her, let her continue to walk all over you.

    Hey, maybe you can watch while she's having sex with other guys, then at least you can still be a part of it all.

    You obviously want this girl (good or bad) in your life.

    Oh, just so I know, what will it finally take for you to call it quits? How badly does she have to treat you before you grow a pair and leave?

    I'd like to know, is there a limit of abuse you'll take, or can she continue to do anything and everything she wants and you won't budge?
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    #283

    May 26, 2009, 04:12 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    You are so whipped! I give up.

    Call her, let her continue to walk all over you.

    Hey, maybe you can watch while she's having sex with other guys, then at least you can still be a part of it all.

    You obviously want this girl (good or bad) in your life.

    Oh, just so I know, what will it finally take for you to call it quits? How badly does she have to treat you before you grow a pair and leave?

    I'd like to know, is there a limit of abuse you'll take, or can she continue to do anything and everything she wants and you won't budge?
    I think she's confused, she's not going to have sex with other guys
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    #284

    May 26, 2009, 04:14 PM

    I really think she is the one!
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    #285

    May 26, 2009, 04:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    i really think she is the one!
    The one what? The one that will continuously stab you in the heart and walk away laughing? Ya, you may be right.
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    #286

    May 26, 2009, 04:18 PM

    Don't u think it will get better? That she's confused about a lot of things? She said she will try and reall think about us being back into a relationship
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    #287

    May 26, 2009, 04:20 PM
    She obviously doesn't want to end this, because she came back an hour later
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    #288

    May 26, 2009, 04:25 PM

    I just want to rescue her from all her problems I love her so much
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    #289

    May 26, 2009, 04:26 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    she obviously doesnt want to end this, because she came back an hour later
    And what about last night, all the texts, all the hurtful words, all the controlling behaviour and insanity. Have you managed just to forget all that? Have you put it aside as unimportant?

    No, I don't think she will change, why, because she doesn't have to. You accept all of her manipulative hurtful ways, you're a puppy on a string and she knows she can kick you as often as she wants and you'll keep coming back begging for more. Why would she change? She doesn't have any reason to. Heck you can't even keep yourself from calling for a few hours, she's got you by the balls and she knows it.

    You need to wake up and smell the coffee.
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    #290

    May 26, 2009, 04:26 PM
    Cool she hasn't said anything in 90 minutes
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    #291

    May 26, 2009, 04:27 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    i just want to rescue her from all her problems i love her so much
    If you love something let it go... :rolleyes:
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    #292

    May 26, 2009, 04:27 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    And what about last night, all the texts, all the hurtful words, all the controlling behaviour and insanity. Have you managed just to forget all that? Have you put it aside as unimportant?

    No, I don't think she will change, why, because she doesn't have to. You accept all of her manipulative hurtful ways, you're a puppy on a string and she knows she can kick you as often as she wants and you'll keep coming back begging for more. Why would she change? She doesn't have any reason to. Heck you can't even keep yourself from calling for a few hours, she's got you by the balls and she knows it.

    You need to wake up and smell the coffee.
    How do I wake up and smell the coffee, without losing her?
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    #293

    May 26, 2009, 04:28 PM

    Why would u let something go u love?
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    #294

    May 26, 2009, 04:28 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    cool she hasnt said anything in 90 mins
    But she's still got you watching, waiting.

    Yup, she's got you by the balls, she doesn't even have to try, you just walk over and hand them to her to do with as she pleases.

    Sad.
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    #295

    May 26, 2009, 04:29 PM

    Well what do u want me to do!
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    #296

    May 26, 2009, 04:30 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    why would u let something go u love?
    I don't think this is love at all, that's why.

    Love is a two way street, you're in the middle of the road begging her not to run you over with the car. Sad thing is, you beg and beg and beg, she still hits you with the car and then backs up to do it again. As soon as you're healed you're back in the middle of the road begging for more. That's not love, that's dependence, and it's not healthy.
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    #297

    May 26, 2009, 04:31 PM

    I know, I can't sleep and I barley eat.. I feel like throwing up all the time, I have a couple times.. but I don't know what id do without her. I need help
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    #298

    May 26, 2009, 04:33 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    well what do u want me to do!
    It's not about what I want, it's about you.

    Do you want to be treated like an unwelcome mat all your life or do you want to be in a relationship with someone that's actually nice to you, respects you, doesn't treat you worse then she would a slug?

    None of us can tell you what to do, but you asked for advice, you got it and then the entire night you sat here telling us how hard it is and how much you want to do exactly what we said you shouldn't.

    You're not a child, stop acting like one. Either fish or cut bait, but pick one and stick to it!

    I'm done.

    Good luck, you'll need it.
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    #299

    May 26, 2009, 04:33 PM
    O wow, my heart just dropped.. she just added that guy she slept with a couple months ago on fbook :( omg
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    #300

    May 26, 2009, 04:34 PM

    I need help
    That's the first thing you said that makes sense. Yes, you do. She's like an addiction to you and like any addiction she's ruining your life.

    You do need help, but more then we can offer here. Think about seeing a counsellor about this.

    Good luck.

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