[vanheart]

Cry now. Laugh right after.

[vanheart]

Peek.

Stop fishing for sympathy. You aren't going to get it with me.

I reserve that for the real tragic people in this world.

We all experience those drive by a familiar place, or whatever sparks tears.
Past stuff in our heads. But so what? Its over.

You can boo-hoo, and wallow. Or rock it.
Up to you.

Hell, I break down at unexpected times over silly stuff, But, not because of my ex. I shed those tears already.

Start realizing that this is just a chapter.

And write your next one with this as a lesson learned.

[peekcachu]

Van,

My last post was not meant to "fish" for sympathy. I thought I could come here and express my challenges of getting over a really hard break-up.

I am actually upset with your last comment.

[Imabadman]

I tend to side with Van’s opinion. You want sympathy; you want someone to tell you the magic formula to put your past relationship all back together with chocolate sprinkles and a cherry.

It ain't going to happen. It's over, it’s done.

Hard to believe you spent the better part of a year living in this delusion and not even trying to get through this break up. I realize you hurt and I do feel sorry for you. When you're ready to move on I think you'll take your life a bit more seriously. Good luck, I wish you the best.

[peekcachu]

Really wan to text him right now.

[friend4u178]

Really wan to text him right now.

And when you get no reply you'll just feel worst right??

You know it's pointless peek , just think of something else to do when you have these moments. Believe me , you'll have fewer as time goes by , then you'll look back at this thread and realise what a silly idea it was.

[talaniman]

Clean your closets instead, or bake a gourmet meal, put it in Tupperware and clean your kitchen.

Getting busy instead of dwelling on those feelings will help you until the feelings pass.

[peekcachu]

I texted him a few times. He always politely texts back. But you are right, when he does decide not to text me back, I will feel worst.

I know it must sound like a broken record, but I miss him so much.


Its 12 midnight where I am and I just want to fall asleep, so I don't have to think about him and want desperately to text him.

[friend4u178]

i texted him a few times. he always politely texts back. but you are right, when he does decide not to text me back, i will feel worst.

I know it must sound like a broken record, but I miss him soo much.

We hear a lot of Broken Records on here ;) You just have to realise that your wanting to contact him is normal , but by doing so your just prolonging the pain.

We've said it before and I'll say it again , it will get better , but you have to believe us and stay with No Contact , otherwise your just going to be coming back over and over and never get better.

It's up to you , you can either stay stuck , or want to get better.

[vanheart]

You seem to do what you want regardless of any advice.

[the_original]

Ahhh peekachu..

I am in the same boat as you right now. I have prolonged my misery by breaking no contact on many occasions. I haven't even updated my own thread because I'm just ashamed of my actions the past week. So, take it from someone who feels the same way you do and has made the same mistakes even as recently as 8 hours ago... DONT DO IT.

Your ex politely texts back... so it kind of gives you a high feeling right? Your so happy just that he is showing any kind of attention, and you feel so good as your talking to him... is it anything like this for you so far? And than once the conversation or in your case "texts" are over, nothing has changed, nothing was accomplished, and you still feel like s**t counting the hours and days until you break NC again, rinse and repeat, and you feel worse every time. At some point you have to just realize that nothing is going to change... it's been how long? He knows how you feel, and just because he is "polite" enough or whatever you want to call it to respond to your texts, doesn't mean his feelings have changed. You have to stop, for your own sanity. 2 weeks ago, before I broke NC, I was doing great, things were looking up, had accomplished a fair bit, broke NC, and have been in a downward spiral ever since. But everyone who is trying to help you is right, NC works wonders, but you have to be strong on your part. Like the other posters said, keeping busy is the best thing to do, there is never an excuse. It is hard, and there will be times where you want to break it, but its time to start being proactive about this whole thing. When your about to text him, call a friend. Or write down what you would say and just keep it as a file on your computer or something and keep writing and writing. Go for a walk, treat yourself to a night out with the girls, do something! If you truly want to stop being miserable and get over this, than accept that its over, and yes, its going to hurt, and start taking measures to make it hurt less and less. It does work... just try it. Start with 7 days.

[vanheart]

Yup.

Stop this sad habit. Pining over this guy.

Geez, c'mon already. Show some strength.

Kick this habit. The false love drug you keep swallowing for the wrong person.

[amicon]

Breaking NC causes you more pain,confusion and setbacks.

Once you feel strong enough to NOT do it,you'll get closure within,and you can start healing properly.