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silverlining · Sep 2, 2010, 04:52 PM

Yeah that's thing I don't I could make it work because of the jealousy factor.. I wonder if it would work if it were two guys and one girl? Hehe

Alty · Sep 2, 2010, 04:55 PM

Originally Posted by silverlining

Yeah that's thing i don't i could make it work because of the jealousy factor.. I wonder if it would work if it were two guys and one girl? hehe

If both of the guys clean house, cook and take care of the kids, I would be fine with that. ;)

Chrytophorus · Sep 2, 2010, 05:16 PM

Originally Posted by silverlining

This is not at all negative i'm just really curious in regards to this situation lol..How can you be in love with/ be attracted to 2 people in the exact same way? For me i feel like this situation can work but not in the long run?

Again not judging just curious..

It feels natural. It also helps that we are "friends", the three of us, an' as pairs. It's not a typical relationship with either one, at least compared to other couples that I/we see. We're very very close.

Originally Posted by Altenweg

If both of the guys clean house, cook and take care of the kids, I would be fine with that. ;)

LOL! There is a whole community of people who are in "Trinogamous" relationships, you'd be surprised, I was.

silverlining · Sep 2, 2010, 05:54 PM

Hmmm I'm kind of intrigued lol I don't think my boyfriend would go for it though!

DoulaLC · Sep 2, 2010, 06:10 PM

Originally Posted by Altenweg

If both of the guys clean house, cook and take care of the kids, I would be fine with that. ;)

You would have to throw in frequent back rubs too!

Chrytophorus · Sep 3, 2010, 07:35 AM

DoulaLC, I like your quote; "Babies of all nations are alike, until adults teach them."
You're right, as babies we know nothing an' are egoless. One of things that is taught (learned) is jealousy, fear, self esteem, "the farmer an' his wife", (a very black an' white way of looking at relationships). I guess in THAT sense, the three of us are still like babies, didn't really learn the jealousy thing.

Kitkat22 · Sep 3, 2010, 08:00 AM

I know how I feel and how I believe.
There are vows you take on your wedding day and that is to keep her/him only to yourself.

I think three in a marriage is not only morally wrong, it is making a mockery of marriage.

That's my opinion.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 3, 2010, 06:01 PM

I think it sounds kind of funky how it all came about. Your girl friend says Yeah, you can be with her if it will help her leave this abuser. It's OK that you're falling for her, I don't have a problem with that. And they all live happily ever after.

I can't imagine a woman in her right mind falling for that, then you factor in a woman who has been abused, yeah she would do that to get away from her abuser. It's kind of twisted.

The treesome these days is no biggy, so I hear. Tell people it's what you do then I don't see why people would have a problem.
You tell the whole story and it kind of borders on swapping one abuser for another. That would turn a lot of people off.
I know it did me.

Chrytophorus · Sep 4, 2010, 04:53 PM

Originally Posted by Kitkat22

I know how i feel and how I believe.
There are vows you take on your wedding day and that is to keep her/him only to yourself.

I think three in a marriage is not only morally wrong, it is making a mockery of marriage.

That's my opinion.

I totally agree with you. We're not married.

Chrytophorus · Sep 4, 2010, 05:16 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I think it sounds kind of funky how it all came about. Your girl friend says Yeah, you can be with her if it will help her leave this abuser. It's OK that you're falling for her, I don't have a problem with that. And they all live happily ever after.

I can't imagine a woman in her right mind falling for that, then you factor in a woman who has been abused, yeah she would do that to get away from her abuser. It's kind of twisted.

The treesome these days is no biggy, so I hear. Tell people it's what you do then I don't see why people would have a problem.
You tell the whole story and it kind of borders on swapping one abuser for another. That would turn a lot of people off.
I know it did me.

I think that one of the reasons that my GF said that it was OK with her is partly because the other girl was/is her best friend. My GF had lived with the other girl AND her boyfriend, so, she saw it first hand. To me, that's the epidemy (sp?) of "unconditional love" (which Im sure most people are incapable of which makes this all hard to understand.) Please keep in mind that we ALL get along very well. We're all each others BEST friend. Also, there are no threesomes goin' on, no malarky hanky panky stuff, that's not my intention nor is it even in my bag. Ever since we all got together, life has been better for the three of us as individuals. I don't know why it's so hard for friends/family to see that.
I haven't been abusive, (?) I've been very supportive and nurturing. I actually help around the house, I cook, I clean, I take care of the animals, I don't drink/smoke, I have my own business an' I'm going to school. They are in school too; ones studying to be a doctor an' the other a Vet, so, we are all quite ambitious an' have our own things goin' on in life as individuals.
Please don't mistake us for people that belong on Jerry Springer.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 4, 2010, 06:13 PM

I just think it a bit shaky that she would leave an abusive controlling relationship and go right to another relationship, one that she is sharing a man with another woman, the woman being her best friend. Kind of dependent! That you would even go there with her given what she has been through... I don't know it sounds like boundaries crossed that should not have been. The patient falling for the Doctor and he allowing it.

What if either of these women or the second one meets another man, is she even trusting of men, has being with you kept her from healing and growing after an abusive relationship. Is she going to be content sharing you for the rest of her life? I just find it all very odd. Especially this second lady and the circumstances...
But if it works for you, it's certainly your business.

LadyLemonTart · Sep 21, 2012, 03:08 AM

I think the basic answer to your question is that people are scared of what they do not understand. Western society is conditioned to think that love is between one man and one woman. Anything other than this is confusing because we are taught that it's wrong to live ANY other way. Also, I dare say there is a hell of a lot of jealous guys out there because they want what u have (what red blooded guy wouldn't) but their girls are not open to it. To get the same thing they would have to be deceitful.

I've actually been trying to achieve this kind of relationship for myself but the motivation is different. I'm attempting to meet people who are open minded about it and non-judgmental.