[shak786]

Hi People
I Basically seek help, I've in my eyes done all I can to show a very special someone that she means the world to me, and that I really and truly, not with a part of my heart but with the whole of it, I love her
I've written her poems, I've done stupid stuff, I've let people go and given up a lot.
given up friends and family in some way
I've made her tribute videos on youtbe to show the world how great she is
and I just seek help in something I can do, to let her know that I'm here fore ever and I love her soooo much, theresz nothing I wouldn't do for her
I've got a few ideas but there small, like when I see her wear a big badge saying, I'm part of the I love angel club
or even, getting on my knees and looking up at her, and telling her I love her
or even drawing it out on paper, card I love angel, and design and colour it really well and on the back make all my friends and faily, and random people around me sign it to approve of it, that I really do love her
any suggestions, people
kind regards
many thanks
shak786

[redhed35]

What age are you?

What age is she?

And what was her response?

[amicon]

Seems you've done a lot already-how did she take all this?

[shak786]

Seems you've done a lot already-how did she take all this?

She said she loves me, for who I am
Thank you for being here for her, and that I the bet thing that's ever happened to her
I don't think Ive done a lot, I want to do more
Want to give her my world but don't know how to

what age are you?

what age is she?

and what was her response?

She is 18
I'm nearly 18
Her responses where, tears of joy
She said, I am the best thing that's ever happened to her, and thank you for all Ive done
Truth is, I really, and honestly do love her for who she is, I really do


And her saying she loves me for who I am, and thank you for always being there for her
I don't think Ive done enough, I want to do more
Way more, I want to give her my world bud don't know how to

[redhed35]

Are you in a relationship with this women?

Your post states she is a close friend.

[shak786]

are you in a relationship with this women?

your post states she is a close friend.

Yeah where close friends, we act like hubby and wifey though
Just religious points, therefore we don't class ourselves as a bf&gf couple

[talaniman]

You have some intense feelings, and if she feels the same, maybe talk to her about being official. Or at least a solid plan for the future, but your both rather young, with many life challenges ahead, and things to do, and learn, an grow.

How does she see her future with you? Seems she loves the attention for sure.

[shak786]

You have some intense feelings, and if she feels the same, maybe talk to her about being official. Or at least a solid plan for the future, but your both rather young, with many life challenges ahead, and things to do, and learn, an grow.

How does she see her future with you? Seems she loves the attention for sure.

She's the kind of girl that needs to be shown love and affection, and when he asks to be alone, you stick to her ore to show her that your there for her
I go through girls like I go through tissue role, and for the first time I'm stuck, Ive been with her for a year and a half and I can't get enough of her
You know, she makes me smile, when no one else can, she know the real me, not the me who I different in society in case I get labeled to something I'm not, you know I'm really fond of her
I admit at times I wake up and say why bother, but than the next day or hours later, I go running back, I'm not easy to please
We act like bf&gf, we have made plans for the future, jut waiting for time to pass by I guess

[sully123]

Sorry, its great to have a girlfriend, but there is more to life than her. Your kind of young to be thinking about marriage. You don't make a girlfriend your priority 24/7, she does need breathing space. I think you need to control your emotions, a little bit. Don't wish your life away. She is the one now, but that doesn't mean she is going to be one for you to marry.

[shak786]

Sorry, its great to have a girlfriend, but there is more to life than her. Your kind of young to be thinking about marriage. You don't make a girlfriend your priority 24/7, she does need breathing space. I think you need to control your emotions, a little bit. Don't wish your life away. She is the one now, but that doesn't mean she is going to be one for you to marry.

Heyyyyy I know, I've thought that through myself
But is 3 years really a long time..

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, it sounds closer to her asking for a restraining order if you keep being so bold, and no, this is not really showing her you care and love her, that comes form everyday talking, listening to what she says, and being there for her.

Next there is no "girl" that is the same, to some, the things you did mean nothing or worst make you look childish.

So if you don't know what she likes, you are not in the relationship that deep

[shak786]

Threads merged

People I need your help, I really do. Ive hit the bottom line and don't know what to do, I need advice.
Basically my other half has dragged something on for to long. I told her to do something in the same way I have done in the past. What Ive asked her to do, I do not want to state. But it was having a major impact on our relationship together, with one another. She lied to me in the sense, that she carried on doing something that she knew got to me. She carried on doing it behind my back. And she was aware of the consequences and she was aware of that it'll get to me if I find out yet she done it, and she carried on doing it. Its caused me a lot of pain, and she knows it has. I can't ever see myself trusting her again or being the same way I was with her before. I can't picture me holding her hand or hugging her ever again. But I'm still attached to her. I love her so much, that's why its so hard for me to let go. And despite all her actions she says she loves me to. But is that really enough when she's caused me so much pain and hurting inside?
My question to you people is, what do I do. is there a point in me getting back with her, even though regardless of I can probably never reach that level of trust that I had for her before. Neither can I be the same way I was around or with her I guess before. Is it worth it when I have so much doubt, pain and anger inside of me? And ill hold back, when I think of her id think of the days where she made me smile but know all I can think about is the times she's made me cry, and the times she's knocked me down?
Thank you very much in advance
shak786

[clickclick]

I've never been in a situation like this, so this is just my opinion based on your post.
Whatever she did has to have been awful if it makes you feel so bad. However if you love her then maybe it's worth trying? Maybe you'll work it out if you try? On the other hand its clear from your post that she knows exactly how her actions make you feel and, I personally, would not want to be with someone who can cause me so much pain intentionally. To me, that's not love that's just having power over another person and using it badly. Have the two of you talked about this? How does she feel about you? The fact that she lied to you and carried on doing it behind your back spells out big trouble to me. If there is no trust there's no relationship.

[talaniman]

But I'm still attached to her. I love her so much, that's why its so hard for me to let go. And despite all her actions she says she loves me to. But is that really enough when she's caused me so much pain and hurting inside?

Without knowing what she did to cause you to feel the way you do, its darn near impossible to give you an answer.

Since your so obviously upset over this, take some time to calm down, and if you wish to get advice, then we need a lot more info than you have provided.

And please use spell check so we can understand you, and know your other post has been merged with this one.

[dynocompe]

You sound obsessed with this woman, and you made this woman your life. I would just ease off a bit and let her breathe. I think she got suffocated, and that is why went behind your back. How could she tell you anything, you would probably break in two.

[shak786]

Without knowing what she did to cause you to feel the way you do, its darn near impossible to give you an answer.

Since your so obviously upset over this, take some time to calm down, and if you wish to get advice, then we need a lot more info than you have provided.

And please use spell check so we can understand you, and know your other post has been merged with this one.

Sorry about my bad spelling ukhhh, I can't spell to save my life yet I'm studying law. She wanted me to cut off the women I spoke to other than her in my life. So I did, cause what I wanted from ten women I got off one, her. So in return I asked her to do the same in a way. But she never. She left it to late, went behind my back. Things have cropped up from the past that she hasn't told me about but stuff that I have found out. And she denies them. Things such as how close and intense her relationship was with someone else. And the stuff they spoke about. I done it for her, in return she never done it for me. She took forever to do it. Guess its to little to late right, right.
Many thanks
shak786

[talaniman]

Don't be a prude, your 18, and immature, and insecure. Both of you. I mean you have been with her for 3 years, so how much of a past can she have? And so what if she started early before she met you? If you can't handle the truth, leave already.

I can sympathize with the friends thing, as evidently it was a big deal that she could not do for you what you did for her, but I see this as a no win thing, since essentially its impossible not to talk to the opposite sex, but cheating is a deal breaker to me, and I do mean sex, not talking, and honest interacting.

You two need a break just to grow up, and re evaluate this whole relationship.

By break, I do mean break up, as in go your separate ways because your both to emotionally involved to see reality.