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    #61

    Oct 14, 2009, 11:06 AM
    I can only give my opinion but he could be the kind of emotional coward who s out of the door as soon as there is any sign of trouble.
    The wrong was done to you. Your BIL abused you.
    A loving boyfriend would have been fully supportive of you.
    How often are you seeing your counsellor?
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    #62

    Oct 14, 2009, 11:38 AM

    I'm still in shock that he is acting this way.
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    #63

    Oct 14, 2009, 11:50 AM
    That's understandable.when we re with somebody we expect them to be there for us.
    The shock will wear off and you ll be able to start moving on.
    Have you read the stickies at the top of the page?
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    #64

    Oct 14, 2009, 11:53 AM

    The stickies at the top of the page?
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    #65

    Oct 14, 2009, 11:56 AM
    At the top of the Relationship Forum, there are several stickies (posts that don't move) dealing with break ups and No Contact.
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    #66

    Oct 14, 2009, 11:57 AM

    They re at the top of the relationship page-advice about breakups-what to do when you ve broken up etc.
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    #67

    Oct 14, 2009, 12:04 PM

    Yah I just started looking at those. I'm going to TRY. Luckily for me he lives a few states away. I want to send him back everything he ever gave me. He was just here a few days before I was asaulted, it was my daughters birthday. I am so angry I would like to send that present back...
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    #68

    Oct 14, 2009, 01:12 PM

    You could give all his gifts to a charity shop. You don't need reminders of the so and so.
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    #69

    Oct 14, 2009, 01:18 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by amicon View Post
    You could give all his gifts to a charity shop. You dont need reminders of the so and so.
    Just don't punish your daughter by taking away her gift, because this guy is less emotionally mature than she is.
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    #70

    Oct 14, 2009, 01:18 PM

    That's a good idea.
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    #71

    Oct 14, 2009, 01:34 PM

    Cat, that's true. He is really a jerk isn't he?
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    #72

    Oct 14, 2009, 01:43 PM

    I'm hurt but am finding that there are some aspects of this that are so abusrd that I just have to laugh. Like for instance... he is on my Facebook. He has been on since this incident and his not talking to me, and he hasn't changed his status from "in a relationship". He has kept that the same. Yet he is treating me the way he is, and from my blogs he knows what I am thinking and he hasn't said anyting at all. I don't think he has a logical bone in his bdoy.
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    #73

    Oct 14, 2009, 01:43 PM

    I agree he s a jerk-and that's putting it politely.
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    #74

    Oct 14, 2009, 01:50 PM

    It feels good to let it out and not be sensitive to HIS feelings. Did you note my last post about Facebook? What a crock.
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    #75

    Oct 14, 2009, 01:56 PM

    Yes-you re better off without him and you ll never have to consider his feelings again.
    Time to look after you and your daughter.
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    #76

    Oct 25, 2009, 06:04 PM

    My heart still breaks
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    #77

    Oct 25, 2009, 06:11 PM
    I understand. Do you need a shoulder or a distraction?
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    #78

    Oct 28, 2009, 04:18 PM

    Both... and I need to understand why.
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    #79

    Oct 28, 2009, 05:24 PM
    I wish I had answers for you. It hurts to not know, but some questions don't have an answer as much as we want them to.

    I can suggest that you defriend him on Facebook. It seems to be one of the last things that people think about in going full No Contact. Even looking at it once every so often is a type of contact for you and can be a set back in healing.

    How is therapy going?

    On a much lighter note, how are your children doing? Are they getting ready all the upcoming Holidays? :)
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    #80

    Oct 28, 2009, 07:23 PM

    While I feel for your hurt, I can't help feel that something better is in your future, and they will care like this dude didn't.
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