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May 25, 2009, 08:07 PM
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She needs you to take control. She otherwise is like a feather spinning around in the breeze.
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May 25, 2009, 08:08 PM
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I don't get how last week she loved me to death.. now this week didn't. Then today after I did what she wanted she says she knew I didn't love her and she won't take me back because I just broke up with her? Even though that's what she said she wants?
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May 25, 2009, 08:08 PM
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Her parents have manipulated and controlled her all her life. She needs someone strong in her life to be her anchor.
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May 25, 2009, 08:08 PM
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WhT do u mean needs me to take control?
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May 25, 2009, 08:09 PM
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 Originally Posted by Steve1010
i dont get how last week she loved me to death.. now this week didnt. then today after i did what she wanted she says she knew i didnt love her and she wont take me back because i just broke up with her? even tho thats what she said she wants?
You don't see through all that?
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May 25, 2009, 08:09 PM
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So how do I be strong?
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May 25, 2009, 08:09 PM
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What do u mean see through all that??
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May 25, 2009, 08:10 PM
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 Originally Posted by Steve1010
whT do u mean needs me to take control?
She depended on her parents to be in charge and to be strong, but they failed her. Now she needs you to be the steady, strong person who will help her through life.
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May 25, 2009, 08:13 PM
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 Originally Posted by Steve1010
so how do i be strong?
Think about it. What does that say about her thinking processes?
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May 25, 2009, 08:14 PM
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 Originally Posted by Wondergirl
She depended on her parents to be in charge and to be strong, but they failed her. Now she needs you to be the steady, strong person who will help her through life.
If that was the case.. why would she say don't talk to me anymore. And close the door like that,, and say I don't want a relationship right now.. I want to be the person for her. She has no one else. I want to so bad and I try to make her see it
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May 25, 2009, 08:15 PM
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 Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Think about it. What does that say about her thinking processes?
I'm really stumped.. please help me.. I need this girl. What is she thinking? Because these last couple weeks she's been messing w my head
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May 25, 2009, 08:16 PM
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 Originally Posted by Steve1010
if that was the case.. why would she say dont talk to me anymore. and close the door like that,,, and say i dont want a relationship right now.. i want to be the person for her. she has no one else. i want to so bad and i try to make her see it
Did she really close the door??
You know she doesn't mean what she says. She keeps changing her mind.
You can be the person for her IF you keep your cool and don't let her suck you into her drama.
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May 25, 2009, 08:18 PM
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 Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Did she really close the door?????
You know she doesn't mean what she says. She keeps changing her mind.
You can be the person for her IF you keep your cool and don't let her suck you into her drama.
But the thing is she said she's sick of the drama?yet she creates it? I just want to be her everything. I want to be her hero. I want to take her away from that horrible situation and just be happy. Because when were together the way she holds me and kisses me I can tell she never wants to leave.. she said the other day when I held her she never wanted me to let go.. but now she says don't talk to me
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May 25, 2009, 08:19 PM
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How do I keep my cool?
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May 25, 2009, 08:20 PM
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 Originally Posted by Steve1010
im really stumped.. please help me.. i need this girl. what is she thinking? because these last couple weeks shes been messing w my head
Like I said, her parents did a number on her, totally confusing her security. Now it's up to you, to give her that security and safety and stability that she missed out on.
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May 25, 2009, 08:20 PM
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 Originally Posted by Steve1010
how do i keep my cool?
By not getting into her drama.
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May 25, 2009, 08:22 PM
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I try to give her security. How can I do it if she won't talk to me? How do I not get into the drama>
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May 25, 2009, 08:23 PM
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 Originally Posted by Steve1010
but the thing is she said shes sick of the drama?yet she creates it? I just want to be her everything. i want to be her hero. i want to take her away from that horrible situation and just be happy. because when were together the way she holds me and kisses me i can tell she never wants to leave.. she said the other day when i held her she never wanted me to let go.. but now she says dont talk to me
Yes, she hates the drama but then creates it because that is all she knows in life, DRAMA, CHAOS, INSTABILITY, INSECURITY, FEARFULNESS. She creates it for herself and, by extension, for you.
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May 25, 2009, 08:24 PM
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 Originally Posted by Steve1010
i try to give her security. how can i do it if she wont talk to me? how do i not get into the drama>
She can't stay away from you, sounds like.
Has she been texting you during the past hour?
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May 25, 2009, 08:25 PM
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That is true that is all she knows.. but how can I show her differently? I have been so good to her these past 3 weeks. Going out of my way to make her feel good, and doing whatever
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