[DJ28]

50 days good job! This is my first day and I feel like crap.

[kctiger]

This is a long, drawn out process, that isn't easy, but is WORTH every bit of the pain and struggle.

[_Someone_]

50 days good job! this is my first day and i feel like crap.

The first days are painful. Don't want to remember them anymore. I hope you get back together unless she dumped you for another guy.this is something you can't forgive.just go No Contact and the time will tell you the truth.

[kctiger]

the first days are painful. dont want to remember them anymore. i hope you get back together unless she dumped you for another guy.this is something you can't forgive.just go No Contact and the time will tell you the truth.

Getting back together doesn't solve anything, and more often than not, it is a temporary fix, until it breaks again, and it is always more painful the second time around.

[liz28]

I think your doing good and the feelings you have are normal. When it comes to 5 stages of grief there is no direct order it follows. The anger that you feel is normal but you can control. Once you stop trying to figure out why she did what she did your healing process would be more smoother.

So get your ex out of your head. When thoughts of her enter your mind, whethe good or bad, think of something else. Don't let thought about her consume you because sadly what is done is done. You can only learn from the relationship with her.

After all it's a new year. A new year that can offer many new opportunities. So don't be stuck in the past. Go out and explore because life is too short and what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. And remember tomorrow isn't promise. Your ex is living her life so you should do the same.

[_Someone_]

I'm having another problem now. We have a mutual friend in Facebook and she keeps posting photos of my ex with another guy and other friends. I really don't know why her friend doesn't post her own photos in her Facebook account but she keeps posting photos of my ex.I don't have my ex as a friend in Facebook.what do they want to tell me? that she is all right without me and she doesn't care?! I already know this.. I really can't help myself.. I feel like I have to see these photos.I know they will make me feel bad but I have a lot of time without seeing my ex's sweet face. She broke up with me like a coward not face to face. I can never forgive her for what she did. I know I will never be with her again. But to be honest one part of me is still with her. I just hope to see her one more time in my life, straight in her eyes.Today is one of my weak days I see. What should I do?should I delete this mutual friend of us from Facebook? if I do she will be informed that I deleted her and they will think I was too weak to face this.. really don't know how to do.. sometimes I feel like booking a plane ticket, going back to my country, and beating my ex and her new guy so hard that even their mothers wouldn't recognize them anymore. This day is very confusing. I'm in an emotion mix.

[kctiger]

Simple solution... get rid of Facebook. Does it actually have a real benefit in your life?

Didn't think so...

[_Someone_]

Simple solution...get rid of Facebook. Does it actually have a real benefit in your life?

Didn't think so...

I'm not deleting it just for the simple reason that I have some friends there. And I talk with them almost everyday. Just it helps me to pass the time. Do you think the best way is to delete my account?
Thank you kctiger... you have really helped me during all this time. Thank you so much. I wish you all the best.

[kctiger]

I got rid of my Facebook. I did this in October. I can communicate with them through various other outlets. Having a profile just opens up so many painful windows, and it creates drama on top of that.

My advice, get rid of it. It was by far one of the best things I did (as far as healing after a break up). Keep your chin up!