[hwiebe01]

I've been in this relationship for 3 yrs now and we both have children from previous relationships. From the beginning of this relationship he was very hesitant to be affectionate. I always figured that because of his history with 2 exes cheating on him, that was why and he just had a wall up. I hoped eventually when he saw that I was here for the long run it would go down, but still to this day he refuses to show affection. It's gotten to the point to where we've had a couple of fights about it and now I just don't know if it's even worth continuing.

One of the reasons for that is because a couple of days ago I had my company Christmas Party to attend. He chose not to go so I took my cousin with me. We had a couple of drinks had a good time nothing bad, just innocent fun keep in mind. He doesn't drink, is totally against drinking, and because of that I haven't drank in almost 3 years. Anyway when we got home he was already asleep and I went straight to bed. The next morning he woke up to get ready for work, and while he was waiting for his vehicle to warm up I went and laid down next to him on the couch. He asked if we had fun and I said yes and then he asked if we drank and I was honest with him and said yes. He got up slammed the door and left. A few minutes later I get a text from him saying that from this point forward I can do whatever and whenever I want.

When he got home that evening he completely ignored me and we had a band concert for his oldest son to go to and he left without my kids and me. So that to me was just my breaking point and he didn't even both to sleep in our bedroom. He went and slept in his boys bedroom. So last night I did the same. I slept with my kids and left him in our bedroom alone. I know at this point it's just childish and something needs to happen and I'm to the point to where it's either we get counsiling or end it. Am I overreacting?

I feel like I'm in high school again and need to ask for permission to have a life because he refuses to be social and I just can't live like that anymore. Please help.

[odinn7]

He sounds like an idiot. Do counseling and if he won't do that, you either accept how this relationship is or you move on.

[Oliver2011]

I agree with Odinn. What is up with the juvenile games? Maybe you are seeing why the other women cheated on him. And honestly, he can't use that as a permanent crush. Counseling and/or move on. Life without drama is awesome, and you are missing it.

[talaniman]

If you can't talk and resolve your issues and make some changes to benefit you both, then not much point in going any further. At least agree to act like adults and stop hurting each other.