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    Osothinkative Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 22, 2011, 05:34 PM
    I love my best friend but she has a boyfriend
    I love my best friend, but yet she has a boyfriend. They've been together for a year and something months, but its going bad and a little good like a rollercoaster. She told me she use to have a crush on me before, but was too afraid to tell me.

    Whenever we hangout she gives me "looks" and gives my friend a hush type of look when she mentions her boyfriend. Her boyfriend treats her like crap, but I love this girl, I really do, but I don't know if I should tell her, or wait it out?
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    Dec 22, 2011, 06:43 PM
    You aren't the only one that goes through this problem. I think you should hang with her and treat her way better than her boyfriend. Show her that you can be the better person for her. Maybe when the time is right you can tell her you have feelings for her. If her boyfriend is a jerk to her while in front of you,stand up for her.
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    Dec 24, 2011, 07:20 PM
    She's got a guy.

    Don't flirt anymore.

    Girls like to play that. Don't let her.

    Do your own thing. Meet other girls. She's meeting other guys.

    That's the way it is. A big wide world out there.

    If she really wants you, you would know. But she likes someone else.

    Never be #2

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    Dec 25, 2011, 12:03 AM
    Oh come on guy, you just don't go confessing your feelings to a friend in a relationship. You don't wait for them to break up, and then pounce either, love, no love, crush, no crush.

    That's not a best friend, that's a selfish agenda, fueled by perceived words looks, comfort, and being familiar through over interacting as FRIENDS. Feelings often develop, that we carry to far.

    You need to hang around more females, and have fun with them. Then you will see they all can be interesting, fun, and you can have some strong feelings from them too. And don't run the risk of getting carried away by feelings for a best friend who has a guy already.

    Get your own girl. This one is NOT available.
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    Jan 27, 2012, 10:11 AM
    SEE... U should show how caring you are... ND when that byfrnd treats her a crap in frnt of you den fight (BY WORDS)and show dt grl dt your da 1 bst fr hr
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    Feb 14, 2012, 10:21 PM
    Yeah I guess your right today I****ed up and accidentally sent her message expressing my feelings towards her inteaded for my other friend.
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    Feb 15, 2012, 08:04 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Osothinkative View Post
    Yeah i guess ur right today i****ed up n accidently sent her message expressing my feelings towards her inteaded for my other friend.
    Bet that was a bummer!
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    Feb 15, 2012, 09:31 AM
    Check out this guideline:

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ip-463250.html

    Don't read too much into her words and actions about how bad her relationship. As long as she's still in a relationship, it means she's still making an effort to make things work. Which means she's still committed to the relationship and you're on the outside looking in.
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    Jul 23, 2012, 11:16 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by vanheart View Post
    Shes got a guy.

    Dont flirt anymore.

    Girls like to play that. Dont let her.

    Do your own thing. Meet other girls. Shes meeting other guys.

    Thats the way it is. A big wide world out there.

    If she really wants you, you would know. But she likes someone else.

    Never be #2
    You obviously don't understand girls.
    98% of girls are afraid to tell a guy that they like then and its Extremely hard if it's there best friend! Because they don't want to ruin a friendship nothing is said I think you should not listen tothis kid, he knows nothing, I do cause I'm a girl :P but you should defeniatly go for it and do exactly what that top answer is about the in time tellher showher your better than her guy.

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