[ladylove25]

Why do they do it?

[ITstudent2006]

Are you asking what we think of guys that spend a lot of time in a relationship? As in they're generally always dating somebody or they're usually in relationships for long periods?

Please clarify.

[ladylove25]

I had a friend say "i spend most of my time in relationships" does this mean? Isn't that unhealthy?

[mmresd]

Tell him to focus on more important things?

[ladylove25]

Like what?

[Wondergirl]

Do you mean guys who go from relationship to relationship, from girl to girl? Or do you means guys who are in long-term relationships?

[ladylove25]

I'm guessing girl to girl

[Wondergirl]

If it's girl to girl, the guys don't have time to even have a relationship. I certainly wouldn't call it that.

Now, what could we call whatever they are doing?

[ladylove25]

What he means is "having girlfriends" but he also says he has a "high sex drive" so I'm assuming he has sex a lot with those girls. But I'm thinking that's all about lust right?

[Wondergirl]

If he has lots of girlfriends (? Not sure I would call them that) and does lots of moving around from girl to girl for sex, he isn't in any kind of a relationship.

[Cat1864]

I think you go back to the source of the confusion and ask him what he means.

It seems to me you are doing a lot of assuming and it may be leading you to get the wrong idea about your friend and his lifestyle. Talking with him might help you understand what he meant.

In general (and I am not saying this is true about your friend), people who jump from relationship to relationship are looking for something to fill a void in themselves. Problem is they are looking in the wrong places. They are expecting someone else to take responsibility for their own issues.

Some people spend years in relationships they know aren't going anywhere. What keeps them there? Guilt, fear, one-sided love, the list goes on. The problem is it isn't a healthy relationship.

However, he could mean he likes being in a relationship and feels at his best when he shares his life with someone else. The relationship may not work out, but it was good while it lasted.

Or could he mean that he spends all of his time with his partner when in a relationship and forgets to spend time with friends and working on his own interests?

[TrueFaith]

A guy that's not ready for commitment. That's what my view of someone moving from relationship
And not finding the right one

[talaniman]

He may be a load of fun, but not a steady partner, or for those seeking a serious relationship.

[vanheart]

Why do you?

That's the real question.