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  • Sep 19, 2011, 05:44 PM
    ladylove25
    What do you think of guys that spend a lot of times in relationships?
    Why do they do it?
  • Sep 19, 2011, 05:50 PM
    ITstudent2006
    Are you asking what we think of guys that spend a lot of time in a relationship? As in they're generally always dating somebody or they're usually in relationships for long periods?

    Please clarify.
  • Sep 19, 2011, 06:17 PM
    ladylove25
    I had a friend say "i spend most of my time in relationships" does this mean? Isn't that unhealthy?
  • Sep 19, 2011, 06:26 PM
    mmresd
    Tell him to focus on more important things?
  • Sep 19, 2011, 06:36 PM
    ladylove25
    Like what?
  • Sep 19, 2011, 06:41 PM
    Wondergirl
    Do you mean guys who go from relationship to relationship, from girl to girl? Or do you means guys who are in long-term relationships?
  • Sep 19, 2011, 06:46 PM
    ladylove25
    I'm guessing girl to girl
  • Sep 19, 2011, 06:56 PM
    Wondergirl
    If it's girl to girl, the guys don't have time to even have a relationship. I certainly wouldn't call it that.

    Now, what could we call whatever they are doing?
  • Sep 19, 2011, 07:45 PM
    ladylove25
    What he means is "having girlfriends" but he also says he has a "high sex drive" so I'm assuming he has sex a lot with those girls. But I'm thinking that's all about lust right?
  • Sep 19, 2011, 08:03 PM
    Wondergirl
    If he has lots of girlfriends (? Not sure I would call them that) and does lots of moving around from girl to girl for sex, he isn't in any kind of a relationship.
  • Sep 19, 2011, 09:08 PM
    Cat1864
    I think you go back to the source of the confusion and ask him what he means.

    It seems to me you are doing a lot of assuming and it may be leading you to get the wrong idea about your friend and his lifestyle. Talking with him might help you understand what he meant.

    In general (and I am not saying this is true about your friend), people who jump from relationship to relationship are looking for something to fill a void in themselves. Problem is they are looking in the wrong places. They are expecting someone else to take responsibility for their own issues.

    Some people spend years in relationships they know aren't going anywhere. What keeps them there? Guilt, fear, one-sided love, the list goes on. The problem is it isn't a healthy relationship.

    However, he could mean he likes being in a relationship and feels at his best when he shares his life with someone else. The relationship may not work out, but it was good while it lasted.

    Or could he mean that he spends all of his time with his partner when in a relationship and forgets to spend time with friends and working on his own interests?
  • Sep 19, 2011, 09:20 PM
    TrueFaith
    A guy that's not ready for commitment. That's what my view of someone moving from relationship
    And not finding the right one
  • Sep 20, 2011, 03:11 PM
    talaniman
    He may be a load of fun, but not a steady partner, or for those seeking a serious relationship.
  • Sep 21, 2011, 12:10 AM
    vanheart
    Why do you?

    That's the real question.

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