[passmebye]

Its been 5 months, and I can't get over my ex. She is all I think about. Right when I start feeling a little better something happens to remind me, and I'm right back to the bottom. Now she is seeing this guy I've known half my life. I can't get these images out of my head.

I've been heart broken before but never like this. I'm 27, I think it gets harder as you get older. I feel like she was the girl Ive been waiting for my whole life now she is gone. Enough time has passed that I see things from the outside clearly, and I know I ruined it with my insecurity's, and worrying. Everyday I live with this. Not to mention our physical chemistry was perfect. I don't find anyone as attractive as her. I've dated some hot girls since the break up, but none of them compare to my ex. When I sleep with these girls all I can think about is how much better my ex was, and it ruins it, I'm so depressed.

We were supposed to get married, and have a life together. So many empty promises. I love her more than anyone I've ever loved in my 27 years of life. Anyone been through anything like this? Its literally killing me.

I just found out about her, and that guy. I miss work, can't get out of bed, can't eat, can't get the images out of my head, and feel so hopeless.


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[Fr_Chuck]

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I guess why are you sleeping with "many girls" that mean little to you. You date to build a relationship.

If after this many months, if it appears to be effecting your life, I would seek counseling

[passmebye]

Sorry learning about this site still

Some advice aside from seeking counseling would be more helpful.. that's kind of why I'm here talking about it. Its therapeutic and it doesn't cost money.. like I haven't thought of that come on now.

[talaniman]

See a doctor about the depression my friend, and obviously you need more time to get over it as 5 months is not enough, and free sex ain't either.

Healing is a process, and there are no quick easy fixes,

Read these,

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...es-590267.html

[s_v_martinez]

I'm sorry to hear what your going through

ii kind of know what you are going through

Its hard because you feel like you have put eveything into your relationship and then your left with nothing
All th plans and ideas and hopes all go down the drain
Its hard but you will get through it and I hope you find another person that makes you feel the same way she does
Or if it is her
I hope everything goes well for you
And stop trying to fill the gaps by sleeping around
It only makes it worse
Try to really connect with someone even if you guys do end up as just friends

That's a big step on moving on and not trying to cover her up inside you

[redhed35]

You have a choice when thoughts of her enter your mind, thoughts are just words, change your focus, don't indulge the thoughts.

You have developed a habit of those thoughts that's why you can't stop thinking about her, as soon as you start thinking about her,change it.. develop new thinking habits.

[passmebye]

Thanks everyone ant body who can relate or has been through this talk about it. Every person who writes on here makes me feel a little better.

[sparklingtears]

We have same story and I'm also 27,we were supposed to get married too but he cheated on me.. I understand how you feel... you are not alone

[mmresd]

You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. It might seems as if it gets harder as you get older because as relationship keep moving forward, you start to single out better women. However, it is not the end of the world, get ahold of yourself. Stop thinking about it, kep yourself busy, stay working, studying, working out, running, reading, playing games, and of course heading out. But don't head out with the mentality of meeting a female straight away and finding the same connection you built with your ex, because that took time, to find the right girl also takes some time. You need to accept that is part of the past, and reliving the past is only meant to do when you remember good things, as memories, not as something you wish you still had.

"I miss work, can't get outta bed, can't eat, can't get the images outta my head, and feel so hopeless."

What is this? CONTROL yourself, and get your act together. You are 27 years old and playing games, STOP THIS. You can do it, is all in the mind, think positively, read my bio and learn that poem, live by it. You will soon find someone that will add to your happiness. You can't be happy with someone else if you are not happy on your own, so start redoing your life, you will survive this, don't worry so much.

[loveher4eva]

I feel your pain I am going through the same thing. Everyone is different I think we should both realise there is not getting over it not completely anyway I mean we will always love them in some way for the rest of our lifes but the face that hurts us more than anything is that they clearyly meant more to us than we did to them and that's the sad truth that we don't want to accept.I have had a week off work and had nothing to do so its all I have been thinking about so I suggest you really concentrate on something like work or a hobbie and hope to find someone that makes you feel good again.You need to feel good about yourself first... hard to do I know it's a massive mental journey and ill let you know how mine goes lol. If you have been hurt all I will say is people rarly change and what goes around comes around and if all that fails try this one... absolutley nothing lasts forever so if she is with someone else it won't be 4ever and they won't be happy all the time nobodys life is perfect.