[ualreadyknow]

My girlfriend of more than a year broke up with me a little more than a week ago due to my insecurities and controlling tendencies. She states that she wants us to try again once she is sure that we both worked out our issues and are able to give 100 percent to relationship. She calls me everyday but only for about five minutes a day, It seems like she is doing just fine without me, I haven't been calling her I been trying to give her space. But every time when she calls I pick up, I know people say I should go out and date but I know if she found that out that would ruin our chances of ever rekindling, but I am bored and lonely as I don't have manyh friends and reallyh all I want is her, maybe nit for a relationship just yet but at least for us to talk more often and start regaining that romantic feel again. I just hope that she doesn't start to forget about me I don't know if I'm being paranoid or should I just look at it as she said she eventually wants to get back with me and she is just taking some time for herself ? Id k please help

[amicon]

She broke up with you, now go no contact and don't pick up her pity calls-committed couples work to solve their difficulties together,they don't break up.

Time to make new friends and accept that life goes on without her.

Make it a good one.

[ualreadyknow]

My girlfriend of more than a year broke up with me a little more than a week ago, due to insecurities and controlling tendencies, She moved out a week ago but I saw her on tue because she had to come back into town for court. She says that she would like for us to retry the relationship once we both work out our issues. She calls everyday but we only talk briefly for about 5 min or shell text asking me something like what uis the stuff that keeps the car from overheating and how to hook up a wireless router. So today she calls and I ask her does she miss me at all and she said not really she just sawe me a day and a half ago and we speak everyday, but I'm wondering why does she contact me over these little things that she can figure out for herself or Google. Im not sure if she is just playing hard to get or what somebody please help what is your interpretation.

[Wondergirl]

My interpretation is that she is using you as a problem-solver and has no intention of restoring the relationship. As soon as she finds a new problem-solver, you won't matter any more. You'll be history.

You would be smart to not answer your phone when it's her and not respond to texts or IMs. It's called No Contact. Until you do, she will keep you off balance.

[TheCompromiser]

I agree with amicon. I've done the "breakup" and try again thing many times. It only worked once, and that was a guy a dated in high school, and we didn't see each other for about 4 years, we grew up, discovered who we were, and started talking with no intention of getting together again. Now, we've been together for four years..

Like I said, it takes a long time away and both parties to mature for it to even possibly work. The fact that she called it off and is playing that game means she's not ready for a real relationship. Like amicon said, committed couples work to solve their difficulties together.

[amicon]

End the confusion-stop being her 'technical advisor'and chat buddy.

No contact,heal and move on.

[talaniman]

Disappear from her life. Why be so available and stuck on someone that kicked your butt to the curb??

Trust me, she will disappear from your life when she finds someone else, and you will be wondering, now what is she up to?