[Rheeee]

My best friend and her boyfriend have been going out for 7 months now. My best friend is the bestest friend I could ever ask for and I tell her everything, her boyfriend even called me his best friend once, whereas I only think of him as a friend. About a month and a half ago he started acting different to me, talking to me a lot more, sending me a lot of texts, saying that I make him happier than his girlfriend and asking me to go places instead of his girlfriend, and saying I have a great smile and he loves watching me laugh... One day when I was talking to my best friend she just goes "I think he likes you", I just looked at her and laughed and said "no he doesn't, where just friends", she said it many times, and then she would get sad and would hardly talk. It can take a lot for me to get upset, in my group I'm always laughing, smiling and doing things to make my other laugh, I'm kind of a loud person, my best friend is more shy and quiet. Two days ago he actually told me and his girlfriend/my best friend that he likes me! Now I don't know what to do, whether I should ignore him. My best friend has hardly talked to me since and I'm on holidays so I can't see her as there's no school. I don't know if maybe I lead him on when I didn't mean it and I was just being friendly. I've made it clear to my best friend I don't think of him that way, but I don't know what to do, I'm so confused, HELP! Please :(
Even my other good friend said me and him would be better together that what my best friend and he are now!

[redhed35]

There's an unwritten rule that you don't go out with your bestfriends guy.

My advice is to ignore him, what's more important your friend or a guy that will probably get bored and move on to someone else.

He will most likely dump her anyway,but on no account go out with him.

[Aleeravilu]

There are two main reasons you should stay away from this guy:

1. He is a >Removed<. There's no bigger crime than breaking up the beautiful connection between two BFFs!
Are you seriously going to date him after he has broken your best friend's heart?

As you've described, you're best friend is quiet and shy, which means she's more vulnerable. As her best friend you should be protecting her from guys like these, not to give him any chance to hurt her more. Furthermore, I think you've reacted the wrong way when you're best friend told you she thought he liked you. You might think that it's funny and just a laugh will make everything go away, you're not right. You should have been as serious as you can and have a proper talk with her about him, and also told her how you seriously don't want to have anything to do with Her boyfriend. It'll make her feel better. Not just laugh it off. People tend to get even more emotional when they're talking about serious stuffs but the one they're talking with just take I as a joke

2. He liked you when he was still with her, which means he cheated on her! He even flirted with you shamelessly => He's a cheap cheater.
Do you want to be with someone who cheated on your best friend?

[Jake2008]

My own personal rule is I never put a man, before a girlfriend.

All I can tell you is what I would do. I would salvage the relationship with your girlfriend by telling her that you are not intereted in him. Reassure her that she comes first, and you would never do that to another woman.

Second, tell him the same thing. You have standards, and he's just not up to them. Make it very clear that you are not interested, and if you choose to tell him that via an email, cc your girlfriend.

Then let them sort out their own business.

[ramona_]

Personally, id warn him and tell him if he didn't stop then you would go to your best friend and his girlfriend. Then if he still doesn't leave me alone id tell my best friend. This guy could end up splitting you apart from your best friend, you don't want that. He needs to decide what he wants, he either wants your best friend or neither of you.

[Aleeravilu]

I'm sorry but I'll have to disagree. This guy has already played between the two. He doesn't deserve anyone of them. Nor they should give him any "chance" either!