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joejoe813 · Dec 28, 2009, 07:41 PM

Hi I am almost 23 and my ex girlfriend broke up with me in a text message on Thanksgiving. She called me a few days later to explain it and said our relationship "ran its course" and that's pretty much it. We were together for 2 years and were good friends before that. We were in love the entire time and everything was going so well until we started fighting in the end. When we broke up she started seeing this other guy a week later and they seem like they are having fun. She hasn't texted me or called me back in a month and I don't know what to do. She is the love of my life and we always talked about being with each other forever. I just don't know what to do now if she won't even talk to me. She recently said she was so in love with me. I just don't know what happened or how to get her back. Could someone help me please?

lala0306 · Dec 28, 2009, 07:45 PM

I think that you need to talk to her and find out what exactly happened and what went wrong. Feel sorry for you

ohsohappy · Dec 28, 2009, 07:47 PM

Chances are, you won't get her back. Sad but true, by her not talking to you, she has gone in to No Contact and doesn't want to go any further in the relationship. I'm pretty sure this was planned. I have a feeling that she had been talking to this guy for a while before the relationship ended, and probably wanted to break off her relationship with you so that she could date this guy without cheating. (Although if that's the case it's kind of a fine line)

I'd leave it be, Don't try to contact her, and go out and meet people.
Don't try to fix something that is no longer there. You're going to end up even more hurt. Just let yourself heal.
Breaking up is like greiving, you have to let it run it's course. You'll never forget her, and you might still have some feelings for her in the future, but you will be able to deal with it and move on.

Just let it be, don't pine after her, it's not healthy.

jaime90 · Dec 28, 2009, 07:53 PM

Don't contact her. If you try desperatly to get her back, you will only hurt yourself in the end. She doesn't feel the same way for you, and you need to respect that. It would be in your best interest to move on. Love is commitment. If you can't stay committed to someone, it's not truly love, it is only romantic feelings (which studies show, only last about 2 years, then the choice to love sets in, and that is where true love deepens.) This girl did not love you.
Learn from your mistakes and move forward.

amicon · Dec 28, 2009, 08:25 PM

Her feelings changed and she met somebody new,probably even before breaking up with you. Ending a twoyear relationship by text is disrespectful . Or any relationship for that matter.
Don't contact her -heal from the breakup and get your life back on track.
Take care.

ohsohappy · Dec 28, 2009, 08:27 PM

Originally Posted by amicon

Her feelings changed and she met somebody new,probably even before breaking up with you. Ending a twoyear relationship by text is disrespectful . Or any relationship for that matter.
Dont contact her -heal from the breakup and get your life back on track.
Take care.

Also, if she did it over a text, then chances are that she might have even been with the guy that night.

joejoe813 · Dec 28, 2009, 08:28 PM

Cool. Thanks guys. I guess I deserve better if someone is going to treat me like that. It's just hard to move on

ohsohappy · Dec 28, 2009, 08:30 PM

Originally Posted by joejoe813

Cool. Thanks guys. I guess I deserve better if someone is going to treat me like that. It's just hard to move on

That's the ticket!

talaniman · Dec 29, 2009, 11:05 AM

Yes its hard, but if you leave her alone, it will happen.

Devorameira · Dec 31, 2009, 01:16 PM

I am sorry about the breakup, but before you can move on you need to accept the reality of your situation. You broke up, it’s over. Let reality sink in. Don’t allow yourself to harbor secret fantasies of getting back together or how she’s going to come crawling back to you. Respect that this chapter of your life has closed and tell yourself that you’re going to have to get over it and move on. It didn’t work out and it probably wasn’t meant to be. Accept that fact and move on.