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Caseyjones557 · Mar 24, 2009, 06:21 AM

Ok so I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half and we are in love I know this, there is no doubt there, she is deaf and I have learned sign for her. She has a past with one of her ex's that did so much emotional damage she had to go to the hospital for depression, and she kept in touch with him from time to time while we were dating and every time she did I got upset because she became depressed and different basically. So about a week ago she went on vacation with some friends and before she left I found out she was talking to her ex and she promised me she wouldn't so I got upset and she said she needed closure or whatever so I was like OK and kind of forgot about it. WHen she got back from vacation I picked her up and she seemed a little different we talked and she said that when I asked her about her ex it pushed her away and I said I only ask because he is bad for you, emotionaly he kills you, and she said well I feel pushed away and while I was on vacation I met someone I think I like but I'm not sure, so I was like OK I'm glad your honest and she was like I think we should take a break and I was like OK but I can't wait around for u, and she said OK and we talked a little bit and she decided to stay with me and work it out, when we got home I gave her the flowers I bought because I missed her and she was happy etc, but later on I was thinking if she kind of likes someone why should we try and work this out I need her to be for sure, so I said OK do you want a break to firgure out your and she said I NEED it so I said OK lets do it, and I agreed with it and I was texting my friend and she was all of the sudden really nervous she was asking who I was texting what we were talking aobut and if she could see and I said do you trust me? She said yes and I said OK, I don't like her I don't like anyone because I love you so stop worrying, so I told her about a girl that was at the gym that hit on my and put her number in my phone and later that night she was like you have these hot girls wanting you and I have someone that isn't that attractive but has a good personality and I'm like I have a good personality. She stayed at my house that night and she was going to get her stuff the next day and we were laying in bed and she as on myspace talking with that kid she thinks she maybe likes or whatever, she wasn't talking a lot but a few messages. So I said hey its our last night together can you not? And she said OK and then she said she doesn't see it as our last night she sees it as a vacation away from each other and then said that this isn't going to be some week break because she needs to sort out her emotions etc. So we went to sleep. The next day I came home for lunch to get my gym clothes and she woke up and she didn't feel good but I asked what was wrong and she had tears in her eyes and all she said is she didn't feel good until finnaly she said she is going to miss me and I said hey we love each other everything will be fine, I was trying to stay as positive as I could to show her that I'm not worried. After work I came home to grab my headphones and a girl that I met like a week before at the gym asked to go with her so I told my girlfriend I am going to go and she said OK so I went and that girl was married and she tried to get me to go back to her house and then kissed me, I said I got to go and went home and broke down and my girlfriend saw and came a cuddled and asked what happened and then she read my text to my friend that said I've never felt so wrong about kissing someone it made me realize that it feels good with my girlfriend no one else and she saw that and then I got myself together and she finished getting her stuff, which she didn't get all of it she left quite a bit, and then she said we will talk once a week maybe and this will be good for us no matter how hard it is, and that she can always come get her stuff later, then we hugged each other and we said I love you and she left. So I just want some input on the situation she texted me once that same day and said she forgot her alarm and I didn't text back, I don't know if I should ignore her texts, or wait a long time to reply, I know I'm going to go date and have fun because I know she will never find a guy like me, I know that, but any inputs would be awesome.

kctiger · Mar 24, 2009, 06:23 AM

I am sorry, but I didn't read your entire story based upon the fact I don't want a headache at the end.

If your girlfriend asks for a break, you give it to her, no other words needed. Good luck!

JoeCanada76 · Mar 24, 2009, 06:38 AM

Same here, could not read the whole thing. The subject line says it all. Does not matter the reasons, but was asked to take a break. Give that break. It could possibly be a break for good, who knows.
As far as her not finding a better guy then you that is kind of cocky on your part. What makes you think your so special?

talaniman · Mar 24, 2009, 12:08 PM

I read the darn thing, but agree with the others, as give her what she asked for, and that includes the alarm clock.

Justwantfair · Mar 24, 2009, 12:17 PM

I read it, it hurt my head, too much back and forth.

Leave each other alone, stick with No Contact.

starbuck8 · Mar 24, 2009, 12:23 PM

Whoa, that hurt my eyes and my head. I couldn't get all of the way through that. There is way too much drama going on. Give her what she asked, and move on.

Please people. If you are going to write a long story, there is something called paragraphs?

A mouse · Mar 24, 2009, 12:35 PM

What the hell? You're going to take a break for her and at the same time you're going to go date and have fun with other girls, something that will break her heart! Never, ever, EVER, do that. If you love her you need to wait patiently for her to feel better. Unless you don't love her it should be an easy enough task. Also, you probably aren't the best guy in the world, I can assume this because you said you were going to date while you were on a break, so don't believe she can't find another better guy. It's harsh but I believe that's the truth. To the last question, no don't ignore the texts! With the way you're talking it's like you think you're breaking up with her.

Stay true, stay loyal, be there for her, make sure that she's happy no matter the cost. That's love.

-Mouse

Justwantfair · Mar 24, 2009, 12:37 PM

Originally Posted by A mouse

What the hell? You're going to take a break for her and at the same time you're going to go date and have fun with other girls, something that will break her heart! Never, ever, EVER, do that. If you love her you need to wait patiently for her to feel better. Unless you don't love her it should be an easy enough task. Also, you probably aren't the best guy in the world, I can assume this because you said you were going to date while you were on a break, so don't believe she can't find another better guy. It's harsh but I believe that's the truth. To the last question, no don't ignore the texts! With the way you're talking it's like you think you're breaking up with her.

Stay true, stay loyal, be there for her, make sure that she's happy no matter the cost. That's love.

-Mouse

So your idea is she can go out and date, which is why she requested the break, but he is to sit around and wait for her to sort her feelings out with some other guy?

There is something VERY backwards with this thought process and not fair to him.