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lilmil17 · Mar 18, 2009, 07:51 PM

Okay
I've been talking to this girl for about 3 years, and we been going out for 1 1/2. She is 15 turning 16 April 15 and I am 16 turning 17 July 27. But any way, a while back when she was in middle school I told her how she was going to change in high school. But yet she swore up and down that she was going to change. Oh I forgot to say that we live in different towns but there are only about 20 min away. Then we broke up because her mom didn't like me (I don't know why truly I don't know why I think I'm a very nice guy)and her mom said that if we still I'm touch by the time she turns 16 I can go back out with her.When she got to high school she started flirting with a lot of people. That really didn't bother me but then she start becoming one of those girls that tries 2 become popular by messing around. She has done too many things that I am not proud of but yet I can not seem to let her go, and every time I ask her why all she does is give me the :confused: look. She says how she wants to be with me and how she can't live without me and I believe her because I stopped talking to her for about 5 weeks because she had lost her virginity (when she said that she wasn't having sex until she was married and I respected that) and she was an emotional wreck without me. I tried to stop talking to her for good but I just cant. I love her SOOOO much she is not like any other girl I have went out with in my town. You know how they say there is one person out there made just for you. I think that she is that person but she is just FUC*ING up too much and I don't know what to do should I let her go or give her another chance?? She not all bad like I can see good in her but I just don't know if she is really :confused: or she just doesn't want to be with me?

Wondergirl · Mar 18, 2009, 08:15 PM

Originally Posted by lilmil17

1. She changed even though she said she wouldn't change.
2. Our towns are 20 minutes apart.
3. Her mom doesn't like me.
4. She flirts with a lot of people.
5. She became one of those girls that tries to become popular by messing around.
6. She has done too many things that I am not proud of.
7. When I ask her why, all she does is give me the :confused: look.
8. She lost her virginity (not to me) even though she said that she wasn't having sex until she was married.
9. She is just FUC*ING up too much.
10. I don't know if she is really :confused: or she just doesn't want to be with me.

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Bubble00020 · Mar 19, 2009, 12:34 PM

Hey yeah that is quite tricky. I would say go on a break. That will give yous both time to think and sort out your feelings for one another. If after yous have had a break and decide yous want to carry on, make her see that she has to change. Make sure she knows its her last chance. I messed my boyfriend about for a while, (nothing like that though, just moaning and arguing all the time) and he finally made me see what an idiot I had been when he threatened to break up with me cause of it. I don't want to lose him, he's the best thing that's ever happened to me and he made me see sense. We're happier than ever now but it took us almost breaking up for me to realise what I was losing. Hope this helps.

xodani · Mar 19, 2009, 02:19 PM

Yea it sounds like she screwed up. But who hasn't and if you can forgive her mistakes then maybe you need to see if she is ready for a relationship like you are. My advice would be to talk to her tell her that this is her last chance to prove to you that she is 100% committed to making it work between you two. Take it slow since it is obvious you are not ready to trust her but maybe start by committing that neither of you will see anyone else while you are working things out and if she can't do that then it proves to you that she isn't really in the right place for a relationship and in that case then you need to let go it will be hard for both of you but it really isn't fair to be in the situation it your in and she needs to understand that and you need to accept the fact that you may need to let her go.

NallaNeedsYou · Mar 20, 2009, 08:43 AM

To me the adivce above is very very sensible and I agree intirely but I would also add that as you love her so much you could test it on her side... like an agreement tha you will sort stuff out with her mum and do something she really values aslong as she sorts her self out and be the girl you knew again... I hope things work out for you. Good luck!

Mommy102808 · Mar 21, 2009, 12:05 PM

Just an opinion... but how do you know if you could trust her again when she told you that she would never change, then when she gets to High School she is totally different. I think if you two want to be together then you should start slow because there will probably be some trust issues on your side. If its going to work it will eventually come together but if its not then its probably best to just move on and not spend your whole life on this one girl. It will hurt if this happens but maybe it takes this time of hurt to lead you into the direction of your true love, the woman you may marry. Hope this helps, I'm not sure if it's the best answer... =)