[ella15]

Ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now his 19 and I'm 18 years old I'm not a gold digger I'm not asking him to buy me the world or anything like that but I'm becoming frustrated. He graduated high school but not planning on going to college his working as a security guard they don't make that much his mom doesn't work because she got in a car accident 7 years ago and has pain in her arms and legs his dad is also a security guard he lives at home with them all his paychecks goes to them because they might lose there house if they don't pay there bills he works so hard.he always have no money we never go out except for our first date which I paid for myself.I appreciate him because he makes me happy his an awesome guy that's why I'm still with him but I'm just tired of his phone being off because he can't pay it.I have no problem that his helping his family but I want a future with him we were suppose to be saving for our apartment but we sure can't do that now.I don't know what to do should I stay with him.I care deeply about that man but I don't want to be wasting anytime with a relatioship that's going nowhere.

[DDLM55]

If you care about him that much then he should care about you enough to get a job and an education. He needs to realize that he can further his education in a criminal justice program or something related to being a security guard. Talk to him about getting financial aid for college, talk to him about how he should get a degree in his work field, he will make more money if he does.

[COOKIE MONSTER]

Jesus hun you've been together 3 months!
Give the guy a chance if you like him that much then money is no object.not all dates cost money,a picnic go to the beach the park its better that a crowded place where you can't hear each other talk.dates are about spending time with each other money doesn't even have to come in to it.
And as for saving for an apartment its way to soon for thinking about things like that,enjoy your time together before jumping in to a big commitment like that.you need to get to know each other in and out before making a big decision like that

[Alty]

What's more important, the guy or money? That's something you have to decide yourself.

This situation won't last forever, but right now he's being responsible and helping his family out. If you can't wait around for things to get better, then maybe you should move on and find soemone with more money and ambition.

Good luck.

[womaningirl]

Ask if he can get another job so u guys can try to get your own apartment
Tell him and make him see that his parents have to find another way because he won't be able to pay for that house always if your boyfriend leaves

Or why don't u move in with him and try it out for a while
Maybe if u pitch in if u live there then u guys can save more money

[N0help4u]

As long as he is not wasting money then I agree see the good qualities in him. I do believe that some security job positions will help pay for him to further his career. He needs to find a good company to work for.
There is a difference between being stingy/selfish or wasteful and just not being able to afford things.