[wishfulthinking]

My boyfriend called me up and told me we weren't meant to be I tried talking him out of it but he insited that it was over.Then he kept calling me to make sure I was okay then when I was he started calling again we started talking a lot and he said he doesn't know what he want's for me to give him space and let him figure things out. Well one day he calls me up and tells me he want's me he is miserable without me and he want's things back to the way they were.So I see him and we have sex then when I get home it's back where we started he doesn't know what he want's and he is scared of the future and for me to be patient.I didn't ask him to commit to me or marry me what is his problem and he's 20 so were not teen's should I wait?? please help

[talaniman]

Wait for what?? You have said you didn't want a commitment, so what's to wait for? How long have you been involved? Tell him to chill out, and have fun, and save the confusion for later.

[shygrneyzs]

He missed the sex, not necessarily you, but the sex. Did you get that point he brought across? I do not mean to sound heartless but chumps like that just play with girls. "Oh, I miss you so much, blah blah blah" Come over, have sex, then it goes back to "oh, I cannot really commt, I'm scared of committing, blah blah blah."

Next time he calls, do not answer. Do not be there when he comes to the door. Do not answer his emails or his text messages. Cut him off entirely. You do not need that kind of manipulating, senseless guy in your life.

[SCIENCEDUDE]

He is just using you for sex, nothing else... thats the reason he never goes completely out of touch... that way he can always convince you to have sex when he is desperate... The best advice for you will be to stay away from him and throw him out of your life.

[amicon]

You don't wait for anybody and stop having sex with him.

Go no contact and move on-he's a waste of time.