I loved a girl for 2 years but recently what happened is from past 2 months she started ignoring me. Then later iI came to know the reason from her itself which really hurts me.

I know I am a bit traditional but she told me that she's not having any enjoyment with me. I am not letting her to because I am possessive (any boy who is loving his gal will be possessive uh.. ). Even I am same and am not letting her to roam in the night times etc etc...

After she told me everything, I told her... you leave me and be happy and enjoy your life. She told OK & cut the call... Its been 5 days still I didn't get a single call or message from her.

Recently I got to know about her that daily she is boozing. Last night she went to pub with her friends... boozed until she created a mess there. Then the pub guys informed her friends to take her away if not we will call the police... That how much of mess she made it seems.

After hearing this my heart really broke down. I didn't get any word to speak further. I was crying in my heart. I didn't even imagine she will turn up like this.

When am driving my bike I really think about her a lot. I'm not able to forget her, I really don't know what to do. I still am not able to forget her she is in my heart

Its really hurting me a lot.

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Originally Posted by anjan001

I loved a girl for 2 years but recently what happen is from past 2 months she started ignoring me then later i came to know the reason from her itself which really hurted me

i know am bit traditional but she told me that shes not having any enjoyment with me am not letting her to booz am possessiv (any boy wh is loving his gal wont be possessiv uh...? ) even am same & am not letting her to roam in the night times etc etc....

after she told me every ting i told her ...u leav me & be happy & enjoy ur life she told OK & cut the call ...its beeing 5 days still i didn get a single call or msg from her...

recently i got to know about her that daily she is boozing last night she went to pub with her frnds... boozed til her neck she created a mess there then the pub guys informed there frnds to take her away if not we will call the police ...that much off mess she made itseems...

after hearing tis my heart really broke down i didn get any word to speak further.. i was crying in my heart i sisn even imagin she will turn up like this....

when am driving bike i really think abt her a lot am not able to forget her i really dont no what to do still am not able to forget her she is in my heart

its really hurting me a lot ...

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You need to let go, seriously. This can either hurt you for a long time, or you can forget and live happily.

She's not worth your time anymore. She wants to party and get drunk but you don't. She is just choosing to party over settling down. I wouldn't put up with it if I was you. I understand that it hurts but it's going to hurt a lot more and a lot longer if you hang onto her and hope that she changes. You're better off dumping her now and moving on.

It hurt now an awful lot, and I understand that you cared. But you still must let her go, and bear the pain until it becomes less, and leaves. This will take a long time since you cared so much for a long time, but leaving her alone to drown in her own sh1t is exactly what must be done by you.

Suck I know, but will get better.

Not every boy that loves his gal is possesive, in fact, love has nothing to do with it. Possessive comes from insecurities within oneself and from the lack of trust with your significant other, love has no play here, that is just the EXCUSE that possessive people use to practice their possessive and manipulative ways. The longer you do this, the further you will push her away, either you live a life along with her but also have a life separate from her and allow her to do the same, or lose the life along with her and both of you will end up going separate ways regardless. It is your choice, work on yourself esteem and start trusting your girl. Remember that if there is no trust, there is no relationship.

If you are past the point of reconciliation, and she has already made up her mind about leaving you, there is nothing else to do but respect her decision and move on. There will be other girls. Make sure that you learn this lesson, or this will happen to you again, and again, and again.

How to forget her... am trying not to message her or call her but my hands automatically go to the cell and I will cal or send a message

But she is least bothered about me its been 10 days she didn't even try to call me or message me... every time I do it... but still I get a strange reply frm her

Even though am not able to forget her... seriously I don no wt to do...

Leave her alone and stop your hands from messaging. We never forget, we just get use to them not being around us, and we build a happy life without them.

Get control of yourself.

You're only hurting yourself more and making things worse if you keep trying to contact her. Save yourself and let it go.

Am really not able to cme out off her.. purposely am going out wit ma friends... late night after coming hme again I start thinking about her... am really trying hard to stop my hands frm msging & calling her.. I throw my cell aside.. but stillll am not able to... fuh get

Tel me hw to forget her I need to cme out off tis...

First off, please write with full words, and coherent sentences. To answer your question, getting over someone is different for everyone, you've got to take it in strides. First step is go no contact. Don't talk, text, message, inquire or think about her. Once you can do that, then getting out trying new things, finding a hobby/acitivity that you love seems to work, doing that lets you meet new people, enjoy new company and open new doors. It's only as hard as you make it.

Best of luck.

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