[octopuss girl]

Hello to all I am new here and this is my question, I hope to get someone input on how to deal with this.
My parents had a HORRIBLE separation about 4 years ago now, my mother cheated on my father and my father was the one to find out. My mother, still to this day, has not talked to us about why, or what happened 4 years ago. Why she lied to us, or why (the kids were 3 I'm 23, my sister 21 and my brother 19) We have a problem communicating in our family, except for my brother and sister and I, we talk all the time, but to speak to my parents about this, there is no way.
My mother now lives with the man she cheated on my father with, and my father has met someone new. After he went into a serious depression, they`ve been together 2 years. They are engaged to be married now. But I KNOW FOR A FACT, that my father is not happy. I think he's doing this because he just doesn't want to be alone. Its sad, but it's the truth. I like his fiancée but I just want my dad to be happy! How do I tell him all this, when we`ve never really spoken about it? He also lied when I asked if he was getting engaged this past christmas, then about a month later, he called me to tell me it was true.
Im confused, angry and sad.
Will someone give me some pointers as to how I can talk to him about this? I thank you in advance for reading this :)

[Fr_Chuck]

There are a lot of people who do get married, so they don't have to be alone, and having companionship is a form of being happy to many.

We have to even look at arranged marriages, where a couple learns to live with each other just because they were told to marry.

And in the end, we do not become happy or sad because of another person or because we get married, we are happy because something inside of us is happy, true happiness comes from within, not fromm things effecting us

[Lillian42]

I would try to talk to your dad and tell him how your feel. That's the best advice I can give you good luck.

[melybum14]

hello to all I am new here and this is my question, i hope to get someone input on how to deal with this.
My parents had a HORRIBLE seperation about 4 years ago now, my mother cheated on my father and my father was the one to find out. My mother, still to this day, has not talked to us about why, or what happened 4 years ago. Why she lied to us, or why (the kids were 3 im 23, my sister 21 and my brother 19) We have a problem communicating in our family, exept for my brother and sister and I, we talk all the time, but to speak to my parents about this, there is no way.
My mother now lives with the man she cheated on my father with, and my father has met someone new. After he went into a serious depression, they`ve been together 2 years. They are engaged to be married now. But I KNOW FOR A FACT, that my father is not happy. I think hes doing this because he just doesnt want to be alone. Its sad, but its the truth. I like his fiancee but I just want my dad to be happy! How do I tell him all this, when we`ve never really spoken about it? He also lied when I asked if he was getting engaged this past christmas, then about a month later, he called me to tell me it was true.
Im confused, angry and sad.
Will someone give me some pointers as to how I can talk to him about this? I thank you in advance for reading this :)

Okay so apperantly your mom and dad have some problems and I know what your going threw so if your dad wants to be engaged I'm shure he wouldn't do it unless he knew what he was getting in to I don't hink its just because he doesn't want to be alone maybe he's just scared and thinks that this woman will not cheat on him no offence. And try to convince him that he doesn't havt to be scared of being alon because no matter what you and your brother and sister are there with him let him think for a while and hell decide what he thinks is right