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    prettyns Posts: 6, Reputation: 2
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    Nov 21, 2012, 06:11 AM
    Should I stay in this relationship?
    HI.

    I need some help. I’ve been dating this man for 8 years now. We have 2 children together. Now the thing is I don’t trust him because of what he did. It happens that a message came to his phone while he was asleep. I read it. It was a girl.

    I confronted him about the message. He claims not to have anything to do with this girl. She is the one who came to him. The same thing happened again but this time it was another girl. I found out that he is dating this girl and it’s been a week. What I don’t understand is he loves me I know he does but what could be leading him to do this and he told me he doesn’t know.

    I really love him and I know he loves me with his children. But there is a doubt hanging over my heard and I don’t know if I will ever trust him.
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    Nov 21, 2012, 09:12 AM
    Trust is very important in a relationship, without it, there is no reason to continue a relationship. About the girl that he's dating, are you confirmed that he's really have an affair? I think you two should go to a couple counselor, like marriage counselor. You two need a professional help because first you have two kids and lastly you love him. Call 311 for free couple counseling around your area. Everybody comes in this situation, including me. You must fix your relationship for the sake of your children. Goodluck and God bless!
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    Nov 21, 2012, 09:57 AM
    Why have you been dating 8 years two kids and no marriage? You have caught him twice, how do you know these girls are the only ones? If he loves you and your children, he would not be dating other people.
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    Nov 21, 2012, 02:40 PM
    Your baby daddy is a lying cheater and you are not supposed to trust him. Get child support and visitation through the court and be done with this bad behavior.

    Love has nothing to do with it.
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    Nov 21, 2012, 02:47 PM
    He has broken your trust and trust will have to be earned back if you stay in this relationship and if you can find it in your heart to forgive him for his indiscretion. At the same time you need to lay the law down to mr. romeo and let him know that you will not tolerate his actions and if he cannot be faithful you need to move on because you will be subjecting yourself to this emotional pain over and over again.
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    Nov 21, 2012, 11:56 PM
    Thanks a lot this will really help us, at least now I have a direction where to go and he also feel so bad, he even call our parents and explain to them how he wrong me and apologised/. I think he knows the pain he coused me and he regreat it.


    Guyz your answers have been really a help to me APPRECIATED.
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