[pie351]

I have a son who is 15 I hae had to move to another suburb than the one we havae lived in for the last 15 years and he does not want to come I do not know what to do? He refuses to leave there but keeps asking me to pay his way I cannot afford to he is too young for government payments he is just been dificult
What do I do??

[teacherjenn4]

He is a child. He doesn't get a choice. He will adjust, but it will take time. Is he able to see his old friends occasionally?

[Alty]

You be the parent. He's a child, he has no choice in this. He can't live on his own until he's 18. Until then, you make the rules and he follows them. The fact that he doesn't understand this is the major problem, and it comes down to a problem in parenting.

[dontknownuthin]

I think you need to be clear in telling him "no" to living on his own or staying behind. At the same time, you should validate his feelings. Do not act like his reasons for wanting to stay are unimportant or invalid. Rather, let him know that you recognize that his reasons for wanting to stay are important and valid, but the needs of the family as a whole take precedence.

[Fr_Chuck]

First you should not have even had that discussion. You merely tellwhen he is moving, and he does not have a choice.

So at 15, if he could have gotten welfare you make it sound like you would have just left him there.?