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    Oct 28, 2012, 08:21 AM
    Did he switch over?
    I’ve been messing around with my homeboy for three and half years (just sex). Never have I seen another girl in the picture or even heard of one. He's very quiet and works all the time but doesn’t go anywhere on his off days. So recently he moved out his apartment and moved in with me about three months ago. Before he moved here the sex was great and I can go to his house anytime I wanted to without calling. So he moves here and everything is different.

    I can’t touch him without him having an attitude. We haven’t had sex in months. He watches a lot of porn but in his phone a porn site called she males popped up. Men that look exactly like women and sometimes better but still have penises. So I asked him was he gay of course he said no but then wanted sex. I set up a fake profile on a chat line and acted as if I was a she male. He accepted and I let him know I was a man that looks like a girl with a penis and so on. Killing part he was willing to have a threesome with two men or even just watch them.

    I was hurt so asked again are you gay not telling him I set up a fake page. He says no and wants sex. I’m confused at this time. IS HE BI-CURIOUS, GAY OR DO YOU ALL THINK HE'S ALREADY SLEPT WITH A MAN, OR JUST Isn't INTERESTED IN SEX WITH ME NO MORE?
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    Oct 28, 2012, 08:31 AM
    Sounds like he is bi to me or maybe he wants to explore that side. Why did y'all mess up a perfectly good thing by moving in together?

    UGH - relationships!!

    Since you both were using each other for sex, do you have an issue if he explores that side of himself? It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship if you are setting up traps to catch him.
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    Oct 28, 2012, 08:38 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Oliver2011 View Post
    Sounds like he is bi to me or maybe he wants to explore that side. Why did y'all mess up a perfectly good thing by moving in together?

    UGH - relationships!!!

    Since you both were using each other for sex, do you have an issue if he explores that side of himself? It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship if you are setting up traps to catch him.
    Well we have never been in a relationship of love or any sort just sex but I do have feelings for him. Actually I have no problem if he was to explore all I want is the truth from word of mouth so I can move forward and not wait on him.
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    Oct 28, 2012, 12:54 PM
    He is probably on the down low, gay (BI?) but keeping it secret, and doesn't want to mess up the living arrangement or the free sex. He obviously wants his secret life, and a public one, and you have to base your decision on the facts you have, and not just the drama and assumptions since he won't tell you the truth without a lotof pressure from you.

    Just sex is hardly an indication of a relationship success. And hardly a solid thing to build a future on and has changed the whole friends with benefits thing because now he has to lie, where before he didn't.

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