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So, she dumped me, 3 months ago I'm 32 she's about to turn 31. We have children together. ANd have lived apart 6 weeks, we lost our family home and I have lived Io my own flat for 3 weeks.

On breaking up with me we lived together for 6 weeks before she moved out. IT was the worst thing I went through. It made me someone I was not a desperate needy mess. I begged etc. When it became too much I took a break and took the kids on holiday.

During that time she mostly still got changed in front of me, sometimes slept with me. ALthough no intimacy except a cuddle.

SHe moved out and I felt better. I want to win her back, ANd have had mixed signals since the day she moved out. I stuck to my limited contact once a day phone call to kids. HOwever she has spent hours with me. BUt I have gone with the flow until now. WHen I plan to take control and not allow all these mixed signals to continue. THese include, inviting herself for dinner and staying a long time. Inviting me to hers for dinner and coffee. INforming me of her shaved status, asking about my life and telling me about hers. On occasion wearing clothes I like. Low cut tops hair down and perfume. TUrning up at places I am. LOWering her trousers to see bruises on her inner thighs. Getting angry if I don't answer texts quickly or the phone if she rings. Telling me she hopes my next girlfriend nice and clean. THat I should have some one night stands but she won't be As can't be bothered with hassle. ASking me if I have someone else as I have been out a few times since our breakup. WHEn I have she calls first thing or even comes round. SHe has done my washing and gets demented when I don't play along. Also her body language is mixed standing close enough for her breasts to touch me.. legs crossed toward me sparks in her eye. Even that she is sorting out her own sexual needs if you get me.

ANd I have until this point played it cool and gone with the flow hoping for reconciliation. I told her that I want that But she does not respond either way. But realise I just a filler when she is not with her friends or feeling lonely. AS if she busy she blatantly does not respond or message etc... but when It's me not contacting her she rings knowing I will answer due to kids.

She dumped me but now I feel that we aren't quite in a relationship and not quite friends.

I have written a second chance letter, and was going to post it in a week or so after returning from my two week holiday and going as limited contact as I can.

I have made no illusion I want her, but do have two date potentials. Why is she behaving the way she is and do you feel she using the kids to satisfy her need to see me. WHAt tips do you have for winning her back implementing no contact and is it to late. THEre more examples of her behaviour since breaking up. BUT to keep this as short as I can I HAVE not mentioned them