[girlygirl3013]

I'm 18 now. I started dating with my ex when I was 15 and he was 24 I was very mature for my age. I know him since I was like 7 he is a good friend of the family but he left and came back when I was 14 1/2. I don't know how it happened but we started dating when I was 15. But that's not the issue. I know people think this isn't right for the age I was but I can careless ;) anyway we dated for 2 years and 6 months my longest relationship.

We started to live together 6months after we started dating. We had our ups and Downs and everything went downhill. I met my current boyfriend and left my ex. Things with my boyfriend didn't start right since the beginning he was a player and I left him but kept seeing my ex. My boyfriend came back to me and I accepted him but I still kept seeing my ex I never stopped cheating on him. Now we are a year and a month everything is good with him now he changed he really did. I stopped cheating on him for 5 months but I recently did again. I feel bad. And what I mean by cheating is having sexual contact.

I recently had a miscarriage of my boyfriend and he wants to try again but I want to wait now I don't feel ready because I feel confused. My ex loves me and I feel like I want to get back with him but I got it better with my boyfriend what should I do? I have a plane ticket ready to move out the state and live with him but I don't know I feel like throwing that ticket away.

What should I do? Help!

[ScottGem]

I know you could care less, but you need to do some soul searching. You have lousy taste in men. First you waste your teenage years on a pedophile. Yes I said pedophile! A 24 yr old who dates (and apparently has sex) with a 15 yr old is most likely a pedophile. I'm surprised he's still interested in you at 18 since you are now too old for him. That's probably why things went south. I also don't buy the mature for me age thing. If you were truly mature for your age you would have recognized that the ex was a predator.

Your experience with the predator seems to have had a deleterious affect on your ability to have relationships with males. Which explains the cheating and also casts doubt on your maturity.

If I were you, I would get counseling to see why make such bad choices and what is really going on here.

One of the clues I see is your statement that you moved in with the older guy after 6 months. That would mean when you were 16. And your parents allowed this? If so, the lack of parental caring could help explain things.

I know you aren't going to like hearing what I have to say. But you decided to post this here. And I have to make a judgment about the best advice to give you based on what you have told us. And that advice is to cash in the plane ticket and use the money to see a good counselor.

[girlygirl3013]

Hmmm.. yea you are no help.

[ScottGem]

Oh I'm a great help. You just don't want to listen to good advice. But then I didn't expect anything less.

[JudyKayTee]

Im 18 now. I started dating with my ex when I was 15 and he was 24 I was very mature for my age. I know him since I was like 7 he is a good friend of the family but he left and came back when I was 14 1/2. I dont know how it happened but we started dating when i was 15. But thats not the issue. I know ppl think this aint right for the age i was but i can careless ;) anyways we dated for 2 years and 6 months my longest relationship. We started to lived together 6months after we started dating. We had our ups and Downs and everything went down hill. I met my current boyfriend and left my ex. Things with my boyfriend didn't start right since the beginning he was a player and I left him but u kept seeing my ex. My boyfriend came back to me and I accepted him but I still kept seeing my ex I never stopped cheating on him . Now we are a year and a month everything is good with him now he changed he really did. I stopped cheating on him for 5 months but I recently did again. I feel bad. And what I mean by cheating is having sexual contact. I recently had a miscarriage of my boyfriend and he wants to try again but I want to wait now I don't feel ready because I feel confused. My ex loves me and I feel like I want to get back with him but I got it better with my boyfriend what should I do. I have a plane ticket ready to move out the state and live with him but idk I feel like throwing that ticket away...

what should I do?? help!!

You were very mature at 15. Now you're 18 and very immature (which you keep proving, using AMHD as a chat site among other things).

What drained your maturity between 15 and 18?

[talaniman]

Leave them both alone, and focus on other things, that can help you be independent, and happy, with a bright future instead of barefoot, and pregnant, or stuck between two guys, as neither of them seems a great catch for YOUR future.

You can do better than just bounce back and forth.