[Karebear143]

I recently broke up with my boyfriend. It wasn't something that I really wanted to do but I felt like he never had time for me so out of fear I pushed him away. It's been a week since we broke up and I've been through hell! He is clearly moving on with his life and doesn't want to take me back! I have msged him now and then when the pain became too much. He's responded both times but he's very short with me. Telling me that this was my doing and even recommended that I start dating myself. That was hard to hear because I feel like if he really loved me and missed me he wouldn't even say such things :( the last text I sent said.. 'Anyways, it seems like you don't care anymore' and he hasn't responded. I feel like it is so obvious that he wants me to leave him alone but it's so hard right now :( any advice?

[Alty]

You broke up with him. One of the things we recommend to all people going through a break up is to go to no contact. In other words, don't contact your ex.

Sounds like that's what he's trying to do, but you won't let him. He doesn't need to respond to your text, you're not his girlfriend any more.

Leave him alone, let yourself be alone for a while, and let yourself get over this relationship. You can't break up with someone then expect for them to just take you back because you changed your mind. That's not a very nice thing to do.

[Karebear143]

I know it was very selfish for me to do that to him and believe me I am suffering now. I guess I was just looking for a second chance... But it's seems like that's out of the picture. I guess all I can do is move on and learn from my mistakes. If it's meant to be then maybe things will work out down the road... When I'm deserving of a man like him. It's sad how I've let my insecurities sabotage this relationship. I need to focus on my faults and grow as a person so I can be a better Gf for the next man. Thanks for your advice!

[rblack72]

Take time and relax. This is not the end of the world. You broke up with him because deep down inside you knew he didn't feel as strong for you as you did for him. Even though you are in pain and hurt it will get better. I personally think you did the right thing. The longer you would hang onto that relationship the more you would have been hurt.

Do not sell yourself short. Get out there, enjoy your life and meet someone who treats you like a princess.
I spent a lot of years holding on to someone who didn't love me back. I wasted a lot of time and knew deep down he really didn't love me but at the time that didn't matter, because I DIDN'T LOVE MYSELF. Once I ended that relationship after 14 years and one child. I learned a lot about myself. I met new people, grew a lot and learned to love myself. It took me a long time and I learned from the pain and experiences that I went though. I am thankful for my daughter but if I could do it all over again I would have moved on YEARS AGO.

Again NEVER SELL YOURSELF SHORT. Good Luck and God Bless

[Fr_Chuck]

You have to stop contacting him, If he was posting we would tell him to ignore you and not message back, to delete any email, delete any text without even reading them.

That is how you get over someone, So he is not being wrong to you, he is following the basic break up rules.

[talaniman]

Closure is accepting its over, and moving forward with your life.