[recklessabandon]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. We have lived together 3 of those years. He isn't from where we live and moved here from a small town where he was "the man". I knew getting invovled with him that he was not the commitment type, but of course I thought I could change him. So he moves here and a few months later we move in together and he starts looking for jobs. I knew that if I ever had to worry about him cheating or leaving me it would be at a new job where he would meets lots of new people. Well he's went through a number of jobs, most temporary. Last October he finally found a good permanent job. Its all been downhill from there. It started with one girl and then another and another. I don't know what to do. I know for sure he's only slept with one of them but I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. I am the best girlfriend. I have the house clean, food cooked,his clothes clean, I shower him with love and massages after a long day of work. I work full time, I help pay bills I do everything he wants to do, but yet I'm still the bad guy. He says he's young and he's going to do what he wants when he wants and no one will ever take his freedom away. The problem with that is,is that he has all the freedom in the world and I never stop him from doing anything he wants to do. I don't know what to do, I love him so much and I know he loves me too but I don't know how much more of this I can take. And Im not going to leave him and through all the fights he never leaves me and we just got a car that we're paying on together and we have this rental lease.. I don't want to lose him:( hellllp!

[smoothy]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. We have lived together 3 of those years. He isnt from where we live and moved here from a small town where he was "the man". I knew getting invovled with him that he was not the commitment type, but of course I thought I could change him. So he moves here and a few months later we move in together and he starts looking for jobs. I knew that if I ever had to worry about him cheating or leaving me it would be at a new job where he would meets lots of new people. Well hes went thru a number of jobs, most temporary. Last October he finally found a good permanent job. Its all been downhill from there. It started with one girl and then another and another. I dont kno what to do. I kno for sure hes only slept with one of them but I dont understand what im doing wrong. I am the best girlfriend. I have the house clean, food cooked,his clothes clean, I shower him with love and massages after a long day of work. I work full time, I help pay bills I do everything he wants to do, but yet im still the bad guy. He says he's young and hes going to do what he wants when he wants and no one will ever take his freedom away. The problem with that is,is that he has all the freedom in the world and I never stop him from doing anything he wants to do. I dont kno what to do, I love him so much and I kno he loves me too but I dont kno how much more of this I can take. And Im not going to leave him and thru all the fights he never leaves me and we just got a car that we're paying on together and we have this rental lease..I dont want to lose him:( hellllp!

Send him packing... or expect a lot more of this in the future... because you are allowing it. Why would he stop?

You really don't have any other options.

Just wait until he brings home an STD or knocks you or one of his other women up... odds are it will happen sooner or later. You think there is a guy out there that wouldn't have his cake an eat it too.. if he could get away with it. Essentially with your blessing... and complain as you want... you are allowing it.