[kayco123]

So basically long story short. I met a girl in October and dated her for 3 months. It ended in December due to her ex (first lover) saying he still has feelings for her. I haven't talked to get since January and I've tried but she hasn't replied. She is exactly like me but she's a female. They broke up in June 2011 and she said when our relationship was strong that she loved me more than she's ever loved him for who I am. What are my chances and how do I get her back? Do I give her time or what? Thanks and I left out a lot of details.

[talaniman]

She lied, and went back to the ex. Leave her alone, as she will probably stay where she is. And even if she doesn't, its quite foolish to be stuck on some one who can go back and forth so easily.

[kayco123]

Thanks! Its just hard for me cause she was my first love. Oh well. Thanks again.

[kayco123]

So long story short. I dated a girl in Oct and broke up in December because her ex (1st bf) of 2 years said he still has feelings for her. She said she knows she has a better chance with me than him and we have just about everything in common. She said she loved Me more than she's ever lived him but her feelings won't go away for him. I haven't seen / talked to her since December but tried to text her a couple of times but she hasn't replied.
But I wrote her a good-bye letter and she said it was a lot to take in. So what should I do? Wait? I love this girl soon much. Please help

[joypulv]

'She said she loved Me more than she's ever lived him but her feelings won't go away for him.'
Baloney. Doubletalk. She went back to him and that's all that counts. Some people thrive on people who hurt them but then crave their return, and you have to accept it and let it go.

'But I wrote her a good-bye letter.. '
Excellent. Her wishy washy response is a clear indication that she's really back with the old boyfriend.

Our job? To tell you she plays both sides and isn't honest. To tell you she isn't worth it.
You need to be a little angry to get out of the dumps. Truthfully, of course, many people say stupid things to try to prevent hurt, even when it just keeps you hanging and hoping. It isn't easy.

All you can do is keep busy with friends. Ask them to drag you wherever you go even if you are no fun right now, and to not even try to cheer you up.

[kayco123]

I appreciate it a ton how you responded. I thank-you very much and the way I look at how you put this I couldn't agree more. Best of luck to you and your future. Thanks again!