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bertahead · Apr 30, 2006, 03:58 PM

I met up with this guy (9/9/74) about 3 months ago. I knew him since we were in middle school. We knew each other back then, but never became friends. When I met up with him again, I swear, I saw stars. I felt an immediate connection with him, and I felt like he felt it too. For 3 months, I would sneak peaks at him, only to find him looking at me. When we would talk, we would both just act like idiots and say the stupidest things. A few weeks ago, I found out he was moving out of town (about 1 1/2 hours away). I was crushed! I mean I was SAD! I knew that if I wanted things to go anywhere, I've got to start talking to him. So I called him, we stayed talking for about an hour and a half. He acted so bashful around me after that, it was so cute. So then came the day he left. He "stopped by" my work to talk to his boss, but he went to my building to look for her... (she's only there very briefly each day and spends her time at the building next door to mine). Again, we both acted all akward. He left like real quick and avoided eye contact. It was weird. FRUSTRATING! I just wanted to grab him and kiss him. Anyway, after he was gone almost 2 weeks, I gathered up the nerve and wrote him a letter just saying that I had a crush on him and I'de like him to keep in touch. I sent it off Thurdsay. I'm DYING to know if he got it, what he feels about it, what he feels about me, what will happen with us!? :confused:

Any advice is appreciated.

Berta

Fr_Chuck · Apr 30, 2006, 05:20 PM

Ok, please forgive me for speaking my mind.

You did say work, not jr high school right ?

First 1 1/2 hour away is not away, heck in atlanta GA that is hardly travel from one side of town to the other. 10 or 12 hours away is away.
1 1/2 hour is still very capable of being a dating distance, esp if you include email and cell phones today.

And you wrote a letter saying you had a "crush", just reminds me of writing notes in grade school. Why did you just not ask him out before he left, a going away dinner or something.

And you let him be gone for two weeks ? Why not pick up a phone and call him and see if he wants to perhaps meet for dinner, you can pick a place about 1/2 way between

bertahead · Apr 30, 2006, 05:57 PM

Sheesh! O.K. I'm married, but just decided to divorce. I didn't say anything because I honestly had a crush on him, but did not plan to act on it until the issue of divorce was settled.
And I didn't actually say, "oh, i have a crush on you." "do you like me? Check yes or no". That's silly. I just tolk him that I liked him.

cece23 · Jun 29, 2006, 06:44 AM

I can't honestly tell you how he reacted to your letter, perhaps you already know by now. But I do feel strongly that you still have some issues remaining with your current marriage which you need to resolve. The love is not there anymore, but you still need to come to terms with the reasons it didn't work out. It's sometimes so easy to blame others for the break-up and ignore what we could have also done ourselves to help the situation. If you don't resolve this before starting a new relationship you risk the chances of the same thing happening again.