[rabyrab]

She's 24 moves in with me we have a relation then my mom gets pissed and yells at me & her. So we left my mom and the condo we all shared and stayed at my dads together for 4 days then she left me after living with me for 5 months but I went back to my condo and she wasn't interested in coming back. She said she needs space and time. She didn't talk to me for 2 days then a gradual text or 2 and sometimes take 2 days for a response. Then when I don't get right back to her texts she asks why I'm I being short and she misses me.

She would see me after 2 weeks and but didn't know Saturday or Sunday. So today the Saturday came and I ask what her what's her plan and all she says is she doesn't know? Doesn't even ask me what I'm doing nothing. Then gets mad at me helping her find a place by saying I found you a place and she's available in an hr. She flipped out and said stop making plans for me. How can that be conceived as making the plans, I was asking of she wants to she can that's all.Isn't that what friends do?

She is a young gal who is saying I need a break but still not communicate and that's what is horrible in this relationship. But a nice guy here isn't what she wants I guess? I know she's very shy and bottles everything up? She doesn't even touch me when kissing her. I know something is wrong with her and she knows it hurts me but she's confused and can't commit to what she says, why? Immature?

She's from Chicago, I know she needs control over everything so she needs to get her own place bad but she doesn't want to see me when I never hurt her and followed what she wants which is to be a casual relationship. She wants space but says she will see me this weekend but now I said its over.

[DoulaLC]

Painful and confusing, but it sounds as though she just isn't ready to be in a serious relationship, and she may not even realize it. It might be best to give her the space and time that she has asked for. Don't try to figure it out... let her contact you when she is ready.

In the meantime, spend time with your friends or family, focus more on work and activities that you enjoy.

[talaniman]

You just didn't click, or work well together, at least not enough to build a future together. You said its over, then leave her alone, because she doesn't want to do things YOUR way.

That's not controlling or immature, that's her choice, and you made YOURS! There is no fault here, just a difference of opinion.

Now leave her alone as after trying to live together, and then as friends, it just didn't work, and that happens all the time. Just move on.