[Trowa]

Hi my name is daniel I'm 24 years old
Iove my girlfriend a lot she makes me happy when I'm around her it's the best thing that's ever happened to me...
Its been like 2 and a half months since we been going out and things don't seem the same the way they used to be...
This is my first relationship I do lack a lot of confidence due to stuff that has happened in my past, she knows this... Since she live just out in the country about a 30 min drive, and I live in town we only really get to see each other on the weekends and on msn or if I call there.
We almost hang out every weekend but for the past 3 weeks it seems she wants nothing to do with me, Like I have seen her but she always seems to want to be with other people then me and when we do hang out she always saying she's feeling sick or not feeling good in general when I'm around... Seems she does not want to be with me on holidays thanksgiving/Halloween, I did approach her about it and she says everything fine and if she did not like me she would not be my girlfriend... Like I want to trust her that she wold not cheat on me but sometimes I find theirs something wrong, and she said she would tell me if anything was wrong but I just don't know what to do.

We had sex 3 times after the third time things started to change with her.

Recently she has not been answering her cell or her cell is out of range...
I just donno what to it almost seems like she dumping me and I don't not why

Please help

[ohsohappy]

Do you think that maybe she got pregnant and doesn't know what to do?

[Trowa]

2 times she said she took Depo Provera injection donno how reliable it is and the third used a condom =/ but would she hide something that in portent from me if those failed.. Like I did let her know even if I did get her pregnant that id be there for her id would not be a coward about

[Jake2008]

It's been only about six weeks that you have been going out, and even at that, it is only some weekends, which cuts the personal contact down to very, very little.

That you have risked her getting pregnant by having sex three times in such a short period, has me wondering if maybe things moved far too fast.

If you don't know her, how do you know her enough to trust her to have sex with you. Why would you risk your health (STD's), your emotions, and her getting pregnant. Just pointing out that without a good solid foundation to build upon, you risk a great deal by being intimate right off the bat.

That being said, your expectations are different than hers. I get the impression that you thought you would be together more, not less, and that things would get more serious, not less serious. She has, from what you've said, quite a different impression of what a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship is.

Before you invest more of yourself in this relationship, consider telling her what you have said here. She is distant, comes up with excuses, seems to prefer to leave you hanging with plans, and is disinterested. Actions speak louder than words, and she is behaving as though you and her are more friends with benefits, than an actual committed couple.

Figure out what your needs are, and what you are looking for in a relationship, and see if she fits into your own expectations. Is she investing 50% and you 50%, or is it more you 95% and her 5%. Might be time to cut your losses, and look for a more compatible, available girlfriend.