[anonymousme789]

I am 14 years old and my brother is 16. Ever since I was young, I was always the one who had to tell my older brother to be careful when crossing the street, or to help him fix his computer or to clean up after him. Sometimes I wonder why I have to put up with all this because he is supposed to be the older one, the one who I look up to. At first I didn't really mind because I thought of it as us being a family and helping each other out. But my brother is always thinking about himself and only himself and doesn't seem to care about other people. Almost every night he would talk to my parents and it almost always ends up with everyone shouting at each other and argueing. I wonder why we can't just have a civilised family relationship sometimes..

I remember the first time I got straight As for my report I came home from school and my mom was waiting for me at the door and she told me. We were all so happy but then my brother started getting into a tantrum saying why don't my parents ever praise him like they were praising me. That night was full of argueing between my brother and my parents. Also the day that I received my sports scholarship my brother started a tantrum about why my parents love me more than they love him just because they were celebrating over something I achieved. I feel that it was really unfair for my brother to turn all my hardwork and effort into something about him. He is always expecting me, my mom and my dad to let him do whatever he wants and it frustrates me. Sometimes I wonder if I will be able to take it for the rest of my life...

Yesterday my brother's internet wifi wasn't working and interupted a tvshow he was watching online and he came out of his room screaming that we have been messing with the wifi system so that he couldn't use it. He is always blaming other people when something happens and it is never his fault. It was a technical glitch and the wifi was slow but he kept threatening me saying that I have been messing with the wifi because I don't love him and I just want him to be miserable. After all that I have done for him and all of my hardwork wasted because of him, he still accuses me and my parents of not loving him and treating him badly. Whenever my parents are talking to him about ways he can improve himself, he always turns it around and says that we are just doing this cause we don't want him to be happy. For example he told my parents he wanted to start smoking but of course my parents said no because they know that its not good for his health. My dad let my brother try one in front of my dad in our house just so that my brother can learn what it really is. Then my brother accused my parents of not loving him and wanting his life to be miserable and taking away his freedom because they didn't let him smoke.

Its also the little things that bug me, e.g the other day we went to an icecream store and I was about to eat my icecream and I said "Strawberry icecreammm" And my brother said "ew I hate strawberry. You can have it" of course I didn't say anything but
I wasn't going to give it to him to eat anyway! It was MY icecream and of course he had to make it about him. I guess I have been bottling up all this stress and frustration and anger inside of me and I can't take it anymore.

Sometimes I talk to my mom about it but she says that I have to understand that my brother is a little different and I have to be patient with him. Which I do understand but I feel like I am the younger sister so why can't it be about me sometimes? Why can't someone take care of me for a change? I really try to hold it in because if I show my frustration in front of my brother he will throw another tantrum and its just the cycle all over again. Sometimes he threatens to punch me like about the wifi thing. He accused me of messing with it and he was clenching his fists as if he was going to punch me. I have told my parents about this and they are aware but I just need a little help and advice on me and on how I can relieve some of my stress.
Sorry about all the details but I feel like I really need to get a little bit of all this stress off my chest. What do you think I should do? I need help... Thank you for your time. I really appreciate it.

[emowithemotions]

If he's being that like I don't know he sounds like he needs some counseling or something. I'm emo. And you probably don't believe ne. That's how it goes in my school.Don't pay attention to him, when I don't want to be bullied I just sit there,not being mean but that might be what you need to do to make your bro stop.XD don't worry!

[anonymousme789]

Thank you so much for your advice.

[anonymousme789]

@emowithemotions Thank you so much for your advice.